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Old May 11th 04, 05:54 PM
Candace
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I only have one thing to say to this: *grin*

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I know that most of you think that I love children, but that hasn't always
been the case. A little over twenty years ago, I was told I was a child
hating B*tch, and I happily agreed with the accusers.snip

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Old May 11th 04, 06:48 PM
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Kathy N-V wrote:
I can only hope that I soured that lovely family on going to the ballet.


Heh, heh, heh.... :-)

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Old May 11th 04, 07:12 PM
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I love kids just couldnt eat a whole oneG
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Old May 11th 04, 08:44 PM
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You know...many times I stick up for parents and play devil's advocate when
you're only seeing a 'snapshot' of their lives. Like at the grocery store
when a parent is disciplining for something and it just looks awful because
we might not have seen what happened right before or half an hour before or
the day before or whatever...it's taken out of context. i'm not talking
hitting them or anything like that. i'm talking frustrated parent.

But your story sounds like parents being oblivious to other people around
them. i HATE that! unfortunately, it's not the childrens' fault and people
end up not liking them for being regular kids in a situation that they
either shouldn't be, or their parents should be more aware. Another
unfortunate thing is that those kids, when they become adults, have the same
entitled attitude. Yuck.

Now, if their lives go anything like mine do, and they're aware enough to
notice it...they'll probably be put in a similar situation and maybe they'll
see how it feels and learn from it. I'm guessing if that happens though,
that they'll be put out rather than enlightened.

I gotta give you credit. I wouldn't have had the guts to do anything about
it...well, maybe not in the fashion you did and I'm surprised that the
people around you didn't stand up and applaud you.

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"Kathy N-V" wrote in message
.com...
I know that most of you think that I love children, but that hasn't always
been the case. A little over twenty years ago, I was told I was a child
hating B*tch, and I happily agreed with the accusers.

Years ago, at the Wang Center, we were seeing the Boston Ballet perform

"Swan
Lake." We were in the "cheap seats," second balcony and all that, but they
still weren't inexpensive by any stretch of the imagination. I had bought
tickets for a friend's birthday, and we were really looking forward to the
show.

Just before the show began, we heard a little noise, just enough to make

us
turn around and look. A family with two small daughters, decked out for

the
ballet. We thought it was kind of odd, since this wasn't "The

Nutcracker,"
where you expect children, nor was it an afternoon performance. This

being
pre-Bob (and of course pre-DD), I really didn't think anything of it.

Until the plinking started. The parents had provided the children with

snacks
to keep them quiet during the performance. (I had always subscribed to

the
notion that any child who needs bribes to behave during a performance is

too
young to be there - but I digress) Apparently the snack bags had a

quantity
of M&M candies with peanuts, which if dropped, one by one, make an amazing
echoing plinking noise as they drop down the steep steps of the second
balcony, just before they fall down on the occupants of the first balcony.

I started out politely, asking the parents to control their children. But
the parents had suddenly developed some sort of memory problem, and were
staring at the children as if they hadn't seen the little darlings before.
The little girls giggled, and the moment my back was turned, the plinking
resumed.

By now, we were hearing grumbling drifting up from the first balcony,

where I
presume some audience members were treated to the sensation of M&Ms

dropping
on their heads. An usher tried to discreetly speak to the parents, with
exactly zero success. The rest of us in the second balcony got to hear a
lecture on how it was entirely appropriate for children to be allowed to
enjoy a cultural experience, and how mean spirited the rest of the world

was
for "hating children."

I don't hate children, although there were two kids right there I would

have
happily strangled, along with their parents. These tickets, a birthday
present for my friend, had made a significant dent in my budget. Even my
friend was starting to get annoyed, and she teaches seriously emotionally
disturbed children all day long - nothing ruffles this woman.

Finally, I reached my breaking point. Giving the parents the "wild eyed

look
of death," I snatched the half empty bags of M&Ms from each child and

stuffed
them in my purse. The father made a token protest that I was stealing,

but
he stopped dead when he saw the look on my face and the faces of the other
theatregoers around him.

Alas, the family fled at intermission. We enjoyed the second half of the
show in blissful peace. The only fly in the ointment is that I just know
that family probably still recounts how horrible those child hating people
were when they were only trying to expose their children to a cultural
treasure. And enough time has passed that these children have grown up and
(dear god) had children of their own.

I can only hope that I soured that lovely family on going to the ballet.

Kathy N-V



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Old May 11th 04, 11:34 PM
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Finally, I reached my breaking point. Giving the parents the "wild eyed look

of death," I snatched the half empty bags of M&Ms from each child and stuffed

them in my purse.


Gee, what I wouldn't give to see that look!
LOL

Cheri
(Bubbee to Emily and Nathan)
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Old May 12th 04, 12:12 AM
starlia
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I have been told I hate children as well. I don't hate children at all and
dote on my daughters. I don't like unruly children or their parents. I
have little patience for the type of thing you describe. I could take my
children to the ballet at a very young age and I never had any problems with
them. Of course, they were well behaved because that's how they are raised.

I don't like to go to a restaurant and have children turning around to stare
at you, running all over the place, screaming at the top of their lungs, or
saying "mommy" over and over again. Before we are seating anywhere I tell
the host/hostess to not sit us anywhere near children. I gave up a long
time ago with the loose childrearing going on.

I know it sounds awful but that's how I feel. However, I adore my little
neighbors and dote on them as well. All the kids around here are well
behaved. The boys are rowdy but what would you expect with boys.

"Kathy N-V" wrote in message
.com...
I know that most of you think that I love children, but that hasn't always
been the case. A little over twenty years ago, I was told I was a child
hating B*tch, and I happily agreed with the accusers.

Years ago, at the Wang Center, we were seeing the Boston Ballet perform

"Swan
Lake." We were in the "cheap seats," second balcony and all that, but they
still weren't inexpensive by any stretch of the imagination. I had bought
tickets for a friend's birthday, and we were really looking forward to the
show.

Just before the show began, we heard a little noise, just enough to make

us
turn around and look. A family with two small daughters, decked out for

the
ballet. We thought it was kind of odd, since this wasn't "The

Nutcracker,"
where you expect children, nor was it an afternoon performance. This

being
pre-Bob (and of course pre-DD), I really didn't think anything of it.

Until the plinking started. The parents had provided the children with

snacks
to keep them quiet during the performance. (I had always subscribed to

the
notion that any child who needs bribes to behave during a performance is

too
young to be there - but I digress) Apparently the snack bags had a

quantity
of M&M candies with peanuts, which if dropped, one by one, make an amazing
echoing plinking noise as they drop down the steep steps of the second
balcony, just before they fall down on the occupants of the first balcony.

I started out politely, asking the parents to control their children. But
the parents had suddenly developed some sort of memory problem, and were
staring at the children as if they hadn't seen the little darlings before.
The little girls giggled, and the moment my back was turned, the plinking
resumed.

By now, we were hearing grumbling drifting up from the first balcony,

where I
presume some audience members were treated to the sensation of M&Ms

dropping
on their heads. An usher tried to discreetly speak to the parents, with
exactly zero success. The rest of us in the second balcony got to hear a
lecture on how it was entirely appropriate for children to be allowed to
enjoy a cultural experience, and how mean spirited the rest of the world

was
for "hating children."

I don't hate children, although there were two kids right there I would

have
happily strangled, along with their parents. These tickets, a birthday
present for my friend, had made a significant dent in my budget. Even my
friend was starting to get annoyed, and she teaches seriously emotionally
disturbed children all day long - nothing ruffles this woman.

Finally, I reached my breaking point. Giving the parents the "wild eyed

look
of death," I snatched the half empty bags of M&Ms from each child and

stuffed
them in my purse. The father made a token protest that I was stealing,

but
he stopped dead when he saw the look on my face and the faces of the other
theatregoers around him.

Alas, the family fled at intermission. We enjoyed the second half of the
show in blissful peace. The only fly in the ointment is that I just know
that family probably still recounts how horrible those child hating people
were when they were only trying to expose their children to a cultural
treasure. And enough time has passed that these children have grown up and
(dear god) had children of their own.

I can only hope that I soured that lovely family on going to the ballet.

Kathy N-V



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Old May 12th 04, 12:14 AM
starlia
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One of the things I really despise about our current culture is that we
have
completely discarded the notion that there is ANY venue which is

inappropriate
for children. What do these kids have to look forward to as they grow up?

Celine

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I thought the same thing the other day. There were all kinds of places I
couldn't go to growing up because I wasn't old enough. There are children
everywhere now. A grown up can only count on a child free date if they stay
home and if their children are somewhere else. Thankfully most children
don't like opera and most parents don't take them. I feel safe there.


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Old May 12th 04, 12:34 AM
Kalera Stratton
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I'm boggling.

What do people think is selfish about not having children? I always
thought it was the opposite! I considered it a very selfish decision to
have kids... I mean, I didn't have them to bestow upon a poor hapess
soul the precious gift of life (guffaw) but because *I wanted to have
kids.* I. Me. Hello, me? I certainly wasn't thinking about how fulfilled
they would be when I cuddled and nursed them, or how cute they would
think I was.

Do people really think not having kids is selfish? What on earth are
they thinking of? Selfish *how*?

This makes me do the big "whatever!" My eyes are wide. I just plain
don't get it.

As for the ballet, some people are FREAKING CLUELESS. That's the whole
"sense of entitlement" problem rearing its ugly head again. Kids acting
up? LEAVE! Better yet, have the common sense not to take them in the
first place. Kathy, good for you. I hope it made them reconsider taking
their kids to formal grown-up venues. What torment for the kids, besides!

-Kalera
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Lee S. Billings wrote:

Ditto. And they call ME "selfish" for not wanting to have kids?!!

One of the things I really despise about our current culture is that we have
completely discarded the notion that there is ANY venue which is inappropriate
for children. What do these kids have to look forward to as they grow up?

Celine

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Old May 12th 04, 01:31 AM
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I think people have been of the opinion that I hate children, but I don't. I
just don't think they should be the centre of attention all the time. It's not
good for them.

What I hate is how when I go to a party where there are parents, they talk
about their children 90% of the time. And I sit there with a smile plastered on
my face thinking "I'm borrrred." If I matched them story for story with my cats
they'd think I was nuts.

And all the children tear around the common area around my house and I love it.
The cats stay in the yard that way.

Selfish for not having children? I dunno. I get to spend more time doing what
pleases me and I think that is what really bugs the people who say things like
that.

Dora

Kalera Stratton


I'm boggling.

What do people think is selfish about not having children? I always
thought it was the opposite! I considered it a very selfish decision to
have kids... I mean, I didn't have them to bestow upon a poor hapess
soul the precious gift of life (guffaw) but because *I wanted to have
kids.* I. Me. Hello, me? I certainly wasn't thinking about how fulfilled
they would be when I cuddled and nursed them, or how cute they would
think I was.

Do people really think not having kids is selfish? What on earth are
they thinking of? Selfish *how*?

This makes me do the big "whatever!" My eyes are wide. I just plain
don't get it.

As for the ballet, some people are FREAKING CLUELESS. That's the whole
"sense of entitlement" problem rearing its ugly head again. Kids acting
up? LEAVE! Better yet, have the common sense not to take them in the
first place. Kathy, good for you. I hope it made them reconsider taking
their kids to formal grown-up venues. What torment for the kids, besides!

-Kalera
http://www.beadwife.com
http://www.snipurl.com/kebay


Lee S. Billings wrote:

Ditto. And they call ME "selfish" for not wanting to have kids?!!

One of the things I really despise about our current culture is that we

have
completely discarded the notion that there is ANY venue which is

inappropriate
for children. What do these kids have to look forward to as they grow up?

Celine









 




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