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My daughter asked if I felt bad that I didn't have any grandchildren (5
years ago). I responded that I could always borrow them. And after saying that I realized it was an odd thing to say. But you see, in Alaska, both the Athabaskan and the Eskimo societies believe children are an asset of the village/tribe, and they are shared. Someone with 6 children would probably have a daughter living with a relative without daughters, or a son living with an uncle who needed someone to pass on his skills/trade to. A child would be "given" to an "grandparent" to learn stories or herbal lore, while hauling water for the elder. These traditions were more necessary in more difficult times, but they are still part of the lifestyle. People "from the village" commonly speak of "my mother" referring to someone who birthed them, and "my Mom" as someone who raised them, or someone who took over their care when there was some sort of problem. And they might have as many as 3 or 4 of these "my mother"s. There is acknowledgement that all children are not psychologically suited to their parents. We all love our children, but sometimes we don't like them. There's no shame in that. We need uncles and grandparents and cousins, etc, but they don't have to be blood relatives. And every village needs children, but not every adult needs them. Tina "Carla" wrote ... People want to know if I regret that I'll never have grandchildren. (No, they'd want to touch my beads!) Cheers, Carla |
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I wasn't going to be allowed to have First Holy Communion with the rest of
my class. It was because there as a prayer I couldn't memorize. I am not a rote learner, or even very verbal, and memorizing words is very difficult for me. However I had been going to class an extra year because I couldn't stand being left behind when my older brother started Sunday school, and I did have an excellent grasp of the concepts involved. Tina "vj" wrote in message ... vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from "Christina Peterson" : ]But not before I glanced in and saw that the nun had ]blood trickling from her nose, and the chips were scattered across the ]floor. LOL!!!!!!! boy, did you ever find out what brought that on??????? ----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books) http://www.booksnbytes.com newest creations: http://www.vickijean.com/new.html ----------- I pledge allegiance to the Constitution of the United States of America, and to the republic which it established, one nation from many peoples, promising liberty and justice for all. |
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My experiences with the nuns were very good (Or they were afraid of my
mother -- lol). But seriously. The nuns were a Jesuit branch, so there was a high level of intellectual interest, and a certain freedom of thinking was encouraged. My only bad experience with the clergy was this one instance of being left out for a reason that was not understood by the nun. I lived in the same neighborhood all my childhood. The Catholics in my area all were taught by these same nuns. I heard no horror stories while growing up. And I have never actually met anyone who claims horrendous experiences. I know there have been lots of nuns with rules and corporal punishment. I believe it's fairly common because of lots of anecdotal evidence. But the abuse that we hear so much of in media, I have never heard about in person. I do not believe it is as common as people in the media like to make it sound, though I have no doubt it happened. Tina "Kathy N-V" wrote ... I would have paid to see that! Has anyone outside of Boston heard that some deaf people between the ages of 41 and 67 are filing suit against the Sisters of Saint Joseph, saying that when the Sisters were their teachers, they used corporal punishment? I don't know a Catholic person over forty who _didn't_ get beat one time or another (or a lot) by a nun. Hearing that nuns used beat on kids is like hearing that the sun rises in the East. But unless things are a lot worse than the news stories are saying, I cannot imagine suing for getting a few hard whacks with a ruler. It wasn't right, but it was certainly accepted by the community standards of the time. Kathy N-V |
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What a lovely, sensible way of life.
But I am not showing this to my Sister cos she'll want me to take one or both of her girls, since they are both so much like me they could be mine (in behaviour that is not looks), their little brother has the quiet temperament of his Daddy which is just as well. :-) In article , Christina Peterson writes My daughter asked if I felt bad that I didn't have any grandchildren (5 years ago). I responded that I could always borrow them. And after saying that I realized it was an odd thing to say. But you see, in Alaska, both the Athabaskan and the Eskimo societies believe children are an asset of the village/tribe, and they are shared. Someone with 6 children would probably have a daughter living with a relative without daughters, or a son living with an uncle who needed someone to pass on his skills/trade to. A child would be "given" to an "grandparent" to learn stories or herbal lore, while hauling water for the elder. These traditions were more necessary in more difficult times, but they are still part of the lifestyle. People "from the village" commonly speak of "my mother" referring to someone who birthed them, and "my Mom" as someone who raised them, or someone who took over their care when there was some sort of problem. And they might have as many as 3 or 4 of these "my mother"s. There is acknowledgement that all children are not psychologically suited to their parents. We all love our children, but sometimes we don't like them. There's no shame in that. We need uncles and grandparents and cousins, etc, but they don't have to be blood relatives. And every village needs children, but not every adult needs them. Tina "Carla" wrote ... People want to know if I regret that I'll never have grandchildren. (No, they'd want to touch my beads!) Cheers, Carla -- ally website: www.alcom.demon.co.uk |
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I love
those totally moronic "what ifs". "What if more women felt like you?" is right up there with "What if there was an angry unicorn on the dark side of the moon?" Yeah. "What if you had some brains?" Jeez. I would have responded that "it's my duty as a Black woman to ram this chair leg up your butt, you moron!" Haw haw HAW! The idea of another adult telling me what my duty is just fries me. ~~ Sooz ------- "Those in the cheaper seats clap. The rest of you rattle your jewelry." John Lennon (1940 - 1980) Royal Varieties Performance ~ Dr. Sooz's Bead Links http://airandearth.netfirms.com/soozlinkslist.html |
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boggle WHO takes a baby to Las Vegas??? And WHY???
I know. (They were everywhere) ~~ Sooz ------- "Those in the cheaper seats clap. The rest of you rattle your jewelry." John Lennon (1940 - 1980) Royal Varieties Performance ~ Dr. Sooz's Bead Links http://airandearth.netfirms.com/soozlinkslist.html |
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When people asked us "when we were going to have another child," Bob usually
responded: "Kath, get over here. These people want us to f*ck on their carpet!" HAAAAAAAAW HAW HAW! I love Bob! Sometimes, in mixed company, he would just tell them that we will start trying that very night, and that we'd picture their smiling faces the whole time. On the surface that one is more polite, but it freaks people out if you tell them that you're thinking of them while you have sex with someone else. HAAAAAAAAW! ~~ Sooz ------- "Those in the cheaper seats clap. The rest of you rattle your jewelry." John Lennon (1940 - 1980) Royal Varieties Performance ~ Dr. Sooz's Bead Links http://airandearth.netfirms.com/soozlinkslist.html |
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That's terrifying! They leave their children alone in a mall? What the...?
Good way to get your child snatched by perverts. Who else do they think hangs out in malls, looking for kids to prey upon? Big DUH. ~~ Sooz ------- "Those in the cheaper seats clap. The rest of you rattle your jewelry." John Lennon (1940 - 1980) Royal Varieties Performance ~ Dr. Sooz's Bead Links http://airandearth.netfirms.com/soozlinkslist.html |
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DD, her friends and I go to the mall. At least one child needs a watch, and
I always wear a watch. I go to the food court, read and get a cup of tea, and DD wanders off with her friends to a designated quadrant of the mall. They all have to report back to me And she's FOURTEEN. Very different story. ~~ Sooz ------- "Those in the cheaper seats clap. The rest of you rattle your jewelry." John Lennon (1940 - 1980) Royal Varieties Performance ~ Dr. Sooz's Bead Links http://airandearth.netfirms.com/soozlinkslist.html |
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When I was in undergrad (mid 80's) we were having some kind of child or
population discussion in one of my sociology classes. I commented that I didn't want to have kids. OMG - you would gave thought that I'd said "for my next trick I will now poke out the eyes of puppies, kitties, and fluffy little bunnies". Geez. I've never wanted to have kids of my own. My Mom always thought I'd change my mind - once I met the right guy and got married (hahahaha). But she also had the goal of none of us kids having kids at an early age (she was 16 when she had my oldest brother). She got grandchildren from my brothers. I never had any pressure from my parents to be married or have kids - yay. But people can be rude and I've learned it's not an opinion (not having kids) that is welcome in our society. Kathy K "Kalera Stratton" wrote in message ... I'm boggling. What do people think is selfish about not having children? I always thought it was the opposite! I considered it a very selfish decision to have kids... I mean, I didn't have them to bestow upon a poor hapess soul the precious gift of life (guffaw) but because *I wanted to have kids.* I. Me. Hello, me? I certainly wasn't thinking about how fulfilled they would be when I cuddled and nursed them, or how cute they would think I was. Do people really think not having kids is selfish? What on earth are they thinking of? Selfish *how*? This makes me do the big "whatever!" My eyes are wide. I just plain don't get it. As for the ballet, some people are FREAKING CLUELESS. That's the whole "sense of entitlement" problem rearing its ugly head again. Kids acting up? LEAVE! Better yet, have the common sense not to take them in the first place. Kathy, good for you. I hope it made them reconsider taking their kids to formal grown-up venues. What torment for the kids, besides! -Kalera http://www.beadwife.com http://www.snipurl.com/kebay Lee S. Billings wrote: Ditto. And they call ME "selfish" for not wanting to have kids?!! One of the things I really despise about our current culture is that we have completely discarded the notion that there is ANY venue which is inappropriate for children. What do these kids have to look forward to as they grow up? Celine |
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