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OT proposed discussion: How did you learn to be a "woman" rather than a "girl"?
mini Mini wrote: If there is a Sephora near you, you can return stuff there. Not sure about make up but I returned a sun cream that turned out to have mineral oil in it. I went to buy a different one & the sales lady said to bring back the one I didn't want! I was surprised, but they took it back. But of course, I spent my money on something else! Never heard of them..... Tricia |
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Nod....I have a hard time following through on returning things that
were purchased incorrectly..... Tricia Johanna Gibson wrote: Be careful on this one. I tried to take a suit back to a famous chain store here - Marks & Spencer's - and they refused to have it back because it had some wrinkles in it. Well, yes, I tried it on when I got home. They claimed that I had worn it, and therefore could not return it. So make sure you return something in a really good condition! Marks & Spencer's used to have a really good (almost too good - it was costing them thousands) return policy. Obviously too many people took advantage of them and they are cracking down now. -- Jo in Scotland |
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OT proposed discussion: How did you learn to be a "woman" rather than a "girl"?
I understand Tricia. It is painful, really, to be in a new place. We lived
in the same city for 5 generations and then, here we were in the Swamp. These are not exactly friendly, gregarious people. Bit by wee little bit, I have made progress. At your church and at your guild, you can see 'who's doing things' and offer to help. Or, . . . ask for help. I know I startle people when I see a wonderful head of hair and say to the stranger, "Your hair is gorgeous, how do you Do that?" Of course, I never say it to someone carrying a submachine gun. Thus far, they've all been delighted and eager to share. The student who stocks groceries at my store stands taller and preens a bit when I buggy by. (And . . . I know who cuts her hair.) The key word here is tenacity. Free translation: hell bent determination. Polly Polly Esther wrote: Start asking women whose hair you admire who their stylist is. Try a couple. I'll bet there's one who can do wonders for you. And yes, make an appointment with your Mary Kay lady when you and she are unhurried. Those ladies know their business. And Tricia wrote Will start inquiring to find one -- I still consider myself new to the area and that's sort of adding to my "I feel awful and pitiful about myself" mood today. Any suggestions for meeting friends? I didn't feel comfortable at the quilt guild meeting, although to be honest, I dont' think I gave it enough of a try. The next meeting won't be for another few weeks though. Church, while people are nice, hasn't exactly netted me someone I feel I can turn to short of the Pastor who is so very busy I don't feel she has a chance to *focus* on a conversation. |
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Tricia wrote:
Nails are growing the last few years for the first time in my life (the positive side of the hormone issue). I finally found my nailfile (had temporarily been using one of those emery boards from a high end hotel bathroom kit) and curved off the edges last night. They aren't a uniform length but they appear to be healthy. I rarely polish them because I usually make a mess with the polish but every so often I try it. I think nails are healthier when they're not polished. Before I was married, I had lots of trouble with brittle, peeling nails. I was careful to keep them polished because I thought it would strengthen them. Then I started working in a library and was working a lot with a card catalog; those cards were hard on the nail polish, so I quit using it. Surprisingly, my nails got a lot healthier and stronger then. I suppose some would say my problems were a result of dime-store nail polish and polish remover, and they might be right to some extent, but now I figure it's not worth the bother. I try to keep my nails trimmed and nicely shaped and figure that should be enough. Julia in MN Julia in MN -- This message has been scanned for viruses by Norton Anti-Virus http://webpages.charter.net/jaccola/ |
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With eye makeup (shadow, liner and mascara), you want to replace it about
every 4-6 months, because of risk of eye infections. I don't buy expensive makeup for this reason. Lipsticks and foundation can be kept for a year, but usually no longer than that. I don't buy expensive makeup for this reason. Normally, I just wear a tinted moisturizer, a little blush, and mascara, but i work in a warehouse with boys who don't care...LOL. -- Jenn/Jalynne quilting, beads, scrapbooking, cross stitch and other 'crafti' obsessions http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/jalynne29/my_photos Live! http://kinneykreations.com "Tricia" wrote in message oups.com... Wow! thanks. Okay, I do own (although they are old) eyeshadow in a nice collection of browns and greens (I have hazel eyes), a brown eyeliner pencil (somewhere...that one probably does need replacing) and a lipstick color that honestly is too wrong for my coloring for daily wear but dramatic for nightwear -- oh, and a nice goldish/peach lipgloss. I don't even know where to start with my eyebrows. I don't think they are unruly growth wise -- just extremely light -- except for the errant dark brown hairs that show up now and then. Nails are growing the last few years for the first time in my life (the positive side of the hormone issue). I finally found my nailfile (had temporarily been using one of those emery boards from a high end hotel bathroom kit) and curved off the edges last night. They aren't a uniform length but they appear to be healthy. I rarely polish them because I usually make a mess with the polish but every so often I try it. I got my wardrobe colors good. I'm comfortable with that. I can't always find what I want but I no longer buy the stuff that really isn't my coloring anymore -- least not in dress up clothes. Shoes -- every day wear is a pair of new balance gym shoes (tennis shoes, whatever they are called nowadays). They were doctor recommended for support. Dressy I have two pairs of Mushrooms, modest heel -- navy blue and ivory/cream. Thanks mini Mini! That was a lot to process.... Tricia mini Mini wrote: I learned from my mother & friends mothers, my girlfriends, reading magazines and practicing to see what I like. I've changed my style over the years. But basically, I learned - A little goes a long way - You have to work with what you have. - Make up is to enhance not to cover up. You need four things for day: That's it: _eyeshadow_ in brown/tan/beige, (depending on how light or dark you are), ie neutral colors _eyeliner_ that is a little darker than your eyeshadow (pencil, dont' get the liquid stuff, that's advanced level!), _brow pencil or powder_ the color of your brow, _lipstick_ in a color that is the color of your lips but just a bit darker. Use a tiny bit and blend slightly with your fingers. Get your eyebrows shaped professionally. It is worth the investment. You will be surprised how much better your eyes look! Keep yourself neat and tidy. Take care of your nails. They don't have to be long claws, just clean & tidy. Stick with classics and neutral colors: dont' try to be trendy. Buy the best you can afford in natural fabrics, in your correct size, get them altered if they don't fit properly. Then take care of them. Invest in well made leather shoes, and take care of them (keep them clean & polished). Our feet are much more important than most people treat them. Work with what you have: if you have straight hair work with that. If you have curly hair work with that. It is little use trying to fight it if you dont' have experience and an investment in lots of product. Keep your hair clean & tidy. Get a good hair cut and keep it healthy and tidy. Find a good product for flyaway or dry hair. (but a little goes a long way. Don't drown your hair in product) That's it. All my wisdom I impart on you, my child, and you will look a million dollars! ;o) |
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Pat in Virginia wrote: Tricia: Interesting topic! I like how helpful and kind everyone has been with this. Me too...I'm thankful for it. It wasn't easy to post about. As Polly said, first impressions are important. I see so many people with 'who cares' hair! If your pony tail is too fly-away, maybe you need a nice bob. That's the current hair style. I didn't do a headband for the interview -- I *think* my hair basically behaved enough (I pray it did...it looked good when I left the house and when I got to the building the interview was it) That is generally a neat and professional look. Pony tails and head bands will not impress the interviewers. My hair is straight and not very heavy. It has nice sheen though. Mine is THICK! and heavy. When it is in a good in-between length and the stars are lined up just right, I can get it in a semi decent french twist -- nothing fancy but at least it is up off my neck. I'm lucky if it stays half a day though (even with hair spray -- when sprayed, it just falls in larger clumps instead of small ones *snicker*). When long, it has a slight wave to it, when shorter it is usually straight except for the nasty cowlick I inherited from my father right in the middle of my bangs. Oh, and even in the bob (this is almost humorous), one side flips under, the other side flips out -- I've had hair cutting people actually spend 15-20 minutes just trying to fix the side that wouldn't cooperate. For now, do not worry about the make up and cosmetics. You need to learn good SKIN CARE! The Mary Kay consultants do this quite well; experienced ones do it best, of course. Go on line and look for a "Director" who will have that experience. (I DID sell MK at one time, but NOT now, so NAYY, I just like the MK Okay, now I'll be seeking a director rather than just any other consultant, thanks for the heads up... Skin Care.) Once you get a handle on Skin Care, you can look into a light foundation, a dash of lipstick soft blush, and some mascara. Go for a polished and natural look. polished and subtle is what I want -- I am not an ugly person, I know that -- I just would rather accentuate than distract from the gifts I was given. HTH. Be sure to take some Before and After photos. PAT Egads -- ya'll want photos. Ouch! Thanks Pat, Tricia |
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okay, I'm jealous...way jealous! Sounds like exactly what I need as an
initial boost.... Thanks, Tricia Nancy in NS wrote: On 28 Aug 2006 08:12:24 -0700, "Tricia" wrote: ...I know there is much more to being a woman than make up and hair styles and such. Those other (and yes, much more important) things AREN'T the things I want to discuss in this thread. The first time I paid much attention to things like hair and makeup was after the birth of my younger daughter. Feeling fat, frumpy and long overdue for a change of hairstyle, I made an appt at a hair salon that I had never used before, sat in the chair, and said, "Make me beautiful." No kidding! That elicited a few laughs, but when they knew I was truly seeking some guidance, the stylist seemed to know exactly what to do. She consulted with a couple of the other stylists and we ended up getting rid about 8" of hair and giving me a short, layered style that not only took *years* off the way I looked AND felt, but was so easy to look after with a new baby. While I was there, I had eyebrows waxed for the first time, someone showed me how to apply natural-looking makeup, and I had a manicure -- something I'd never splurged on before. The total tally for the excursion was close to $100, but I walked out of there feeling like a million bucks. :-) Nancy in NS http://community.webshots.com/user/loves2quilt |
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Tricia wrote:
Thanks for the advice....I got my hair cut last back in mid-June (just before my grandfather passed) and went from long to a bob between my chin and my shoulders and the response I got from a lot of people was really positive. I like the style, I just dont' know how often to have it cut. I have mine cut about every 6 weeks. My hair is really short, so you probably don't need to have it cut that often. But if it's been since mid-June, you are probably due for a trim. Julia in MN -- This message has been scanned for viruses by Norton Anti-Virus http://webpages.charter.net/jaccola/ |
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Sherry Starr wrote: I agree with Polly. An employer is not going to hire someone who gives the appearance they don't care about the way they look. You can go to the cosmetic counter at any department store, and they will be happy to help you. They will show you how to apply the makeup. I use Clinique, and I get a free face makeup several times a year. Ask someone to give you the name of their hair stylist. Also, go to a gym, YWCA, or local recreation group and see if there are some exercise classes you can take. You can also change the way you eat. Cut your portions down, don't eat between meals. If you need a snack, eat a small apple or something like that. First impressions are everything. You have to give the impression that you care about your appearance. Sherry Starr Nod....I am currently having to work with the fitness instructor on campus and my doctor to design an updated workout routine from what I was doing this summer because my heart rate was giving me major issues so hopefully that will be taken care of and finalized very soon. Today was the first day I could connect with the FI as she had been on vacation. I have taken off (and last I knew, maintained a loss of) nearly 5 lbs since I started my old program about 2 months ago and my eating habits have been improving. The weight was put on due to hormonal fluctuations and hormone treatments for health issues (something in that apparently kicked in the genes from the maternal side of my family line instead of the paternal which had been in control before then). It was not a result of eating habits or not caring. The medical issues I was dealing with were more pressing than worrying about gaining weight while they were being treated -- we all figured the weight would come back off and my metabolism would return to what it was once I was off the hormone treatments -- turns out, we were wrong. Now I'm trying to get back to something reasonable -- not an easy thing for someone who never had to be concerned about what was eaten or how much was eaten for the first 20 years of her life -- actually the concern for me as a child was that I didn't gain weight when I should have (I was 25 lbs for 3 years straight as a toddler -- no significant fluctuation or gain) Thanks Sherry, Tricia |
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