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OT Good vibes needed...
I thought I'd bring this to my family here...some of the ones I've chosen...
DH and I have decided to cut off part of his family tonight. Without going into too much detail, they have been literally judging us and being completely unreasonable because we refuse to allow them to contact the child that we gave up for adoption when he was 3 days old. We kept trying to tell them that he's no longer a part of our family, and that when he is 18, he alone gets to choose whether to contact the rest of the family or not (we have an open adoption arrangement, so we do get regular contact already.). They just don't get it, and won't accept it. So...painfully...we are cutting out the unhealthy part of our lives and going on to live in good mental and emotional health. In a way I'm relieved, but it still hurts so much. What I'm asking for...and it's difficult to ask...is just for you all to keep caring, and to keep accepting me for who I am, and to send comforting vibes to me, but most especially to DH. He's really hurting over this. Thanks guys, you're the best! Off to do something to soothe my aching soul... -- Jalynne Queen Gypsy (snail mail available upon request) see what i've been up to at www.100megsfree4.com/jalynne |
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Remember it's a family "tree". Sometimes you need to do some pruning to keep
the rest healthy. Gawd that's so trite. But that doesn't make it less true. Hugs to you on a tough but sensible decision. -- KarenK Desert Dreamer Designs http://members.cox.net/desertdreameraz/ Ebay Sto http://www.stores.ebay.com/desertdreamerdesigns JustBeads: http://www.justbeads.com/search/ql.cfm?s=DesertDreamer |
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Wow. Beautifully and succinctly put, Karen.
Jalynne, I'm dealing with a similar kind of family issue. It's very hard to have to do that, but it's sometimes necessary. You need to do what you need to do for the two of you. Hugs to you both. -- Tink www.blackswampglassworks.com Now offering private lampworking instruction! http://snurl.com/2pun for auctions... "Karen_AZ" wrote in message news:IYgvb.291$ZE1.11@fed1read04... Remember it's a family "tree". Sometimes you need to do some pruning to keep the rest healthy. Gawd that's so trite. But that doesn't make it less true. Hugs to you on a tough but sensible decision. -- KarenK Desert Dreamer Designs http://members.cox.net/desertdreameraz/ Ebay Sto http://www.stores.ebay.com/desertdreamerdesigns JustBeads: http://www.justbeads.com/search/ql.cfm?s=DesertDreamer |
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(((((((hugs))))))) It sounds like a very painful decision, but the right
one for you. Lots of comforting and soothing vibes coming your way. I hope it gets better soon! -- Kandice Seeber Air & Earth Designs http://www.lampwork.net I thought I'd bring this to my family here...some of the ones I've chosen... DH and I have decided to cut off part of his family tonight. Without going into too much detail, they have been literally judging us and being completely unreasonable because we refuse to allow them to contact the child that we gave up for adoption when he was 3 days old. We kept trying to tell them that he's no longer a part of our family, and that when he is 18, he alone gets to choose whether to contact the rest of the family or not (we have an open adoption arrangement, so we do get regular contact already.). They just don't get it, and won't accept it. So...painfully...we are cutting out the unhealthy part of our lives and going on to live in good mental and emotional health. In a way I'm relieved, but it still hurts so much. What I'm asking for...and it's difficult to ask...is just for you all to keep caring, and to keep accepting me for who I am, and to send comforting vibes to me, but most especially to DH. He's really hurting over this. Thanks guys, you're the best! Off to do something to soothe my aching soul... -- Jalynne Queen Gypsy (snail mail available upon request) see what i've been up to at www.100megsfree4.com/jalynne |
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Thanks, everyone, it really helps to know that I"m not looney toons, and that people
do care and understand where i'm coming from. Kandice...this has been a big part of why i've not been able to get together with you...it's just been too emotionally painful around here lately. Hopefully this will help things settle down, and after the holidays, i'll be up to meeting some new people. -- Jalynne Queen Gypsy (snail mail available upon request) see what i've been up to at www.100megsfree4.com/jalynne "Kandice Seeber" wrote in message ... (((((((hugs))))))) It sounds like a very painful decision, but the right one for you. Lots of comforting and soothing vibes coming your way. I hope it gets better soon! -- Kandice Seeber Air & Earth Designs http://www.lampwork.net I thought I'd bring this to my family here...some of the ones I've chosen... DH and I have decided to cut off part of his family tonight. Without going into too much detail, they have been literally judging us and being completely unreasonable because we refuse to allow them to contact the child that we gave up for adoption when he was 3 days old. We kept trying to tell them that he's no longer a part of our family, and that when he is 18, he alone gets to choose whether to contact the rest of the family or not (we have an open adoption arrangement, so we do get regular contact already.). They just don't get it, and won't accept it. So...painfully...we are cutting out the unhealthy part of our lives and going on to live in good mental and emotional health. In a way I'm relieved, but it still hurts so much. What I'm asking for...and it's difficult to ask...is just for you all to keep caring, and to keep accepting me for who I am, and to send comforting vibes to me, but most especially to DH. He's really hurting over this. Thanks guys, you're the best! Off to do something to soothe my aching soul... -- Jalynne Queen Gypsy (snail mail available upon request) see what i've been up to at www.100megsfree4.com/jalynne |
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Hi Jalynne,
I will keep you in my prayers and your hubby as well. Regina |
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"Jalynne" wrote in message ...
DH and I have decided to cut off part of his family tonight. Without going into too much detail, they have been literally judging us and being completely unreasonable because we refuse to allow them to contact the child that we gave up for adoption when he was 3 days old. If it is any comfort, I think you are doing the exactly right thing. I was in my 30's when my biological family "found" me and it was a bit of a problem for me. I like my biological mother and half-brother fine, they are nice people, but I like them "over there". It fiddled with my head quite a bit when I first met them and found a few things out. I can't imagine how much worse it would have been if I'd been younger. shudder And whatever you do, don't let *them* push themselves into the child's life. I think that would be absolutely horrible for everyone who is an "innocent bystanders", i.e. the child and the child's family. I have been willing to meet my bio mother and half-brother but every time she has talked about introducing me to more cousins/aunts/uncles it has made me VERY uncomfortable. I have my own family, thank you very much. - Sandy |
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There's no hurry on that Jalynne. The holidays are busy for me as well,
and we can put off getting together until things feel better for you. I can completely understand what you mean - it's hard to keep up happy energy when you're dealing with that kind of stress. Just remember to take care of yourself! -- Kandice Seeber Air & Earth Designs http://www.lampwork.net Thanks, everyone, it really helps to know that I"m not looney toons, and that people do care and understand where i'm coming from. Kandice...this has been a big part of why i've not been able to get together with you...it's just been too emotionally painful around here lately. Hopefully this will help things settle down, and after the holidays, i'll be up to meeting some new people. -- Jalynne Queen Gypsy (snail mail available upon request) see what i've been up to at www.100megsfree4.com/jalynne "Kandice Seeber" wrote in message ... (((((((hugs))))))) It sounds like a very painful decision, but the right one for you. Lots of comforting and soothing vibes coming your way. I hope it gets better soon! -- Kandice Seeber Air & Earth Designs http://www.lampwork.net I thought I'd bring this to my family here...some of the ones I've chosen... DH and I have decided to cut off part of his family tonight. Without going into too much detail, they have been literally judging us and being completely unreasonable because we refuse to allow them to contact the child that we gave up for adoption when he was 3 days old. We kept trying to tell them that he's no longer a part of our family, and that when he is 18, he alone gets to choose whether to contact the rest of the family or not (we have an open adoption arrangement, so we do get regular contact already.). They just don't get it, and won't accept it. So...painfully...we are cutting out the unhealthy part of our lives and going on to live in good mental and emotional health. In a way I'm relieved, but it still hurts so much. What I'm asking for...and it's difficult to ask...is just for you all to keep caring, and to keep accepting me for who I am, and to send comforting vibes to me, but most especially to DH. He's really hurting over this. Thanks guys, you're the best! Off to do something to soothe my aching soul... -- Jalynne Queen Gypsy (snail mail available upon request) see what i've been up to at www.100megsfree4.com/jalynne |
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Jaylene,
Good vibes coming for you both. Hang in there! -- Jerri www.beadbimbo.com To subscribe to the Beadbimbo mailing list, send a blank email to: ........... What I'm asking for...and it's difficult to ask...is just for you all to keep caring, and to keep accepting me for who I am, and to send comforting vibes to me, but most especially to DH. He's really hurting over this. Thanks guys, you're the best! Off to do something to soothe my aching soul... -- Jalynne Queen Gypsy (snail mail available upon request) see what i've been up to at www.100megsfree4.com/jalynne |
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Hugs to you! I know you'll find strength in each other.
-- Barbara www.penguintrax.com eBay: pnguintrax Justbeadsenguintrax 0 /O\ Need web hosting? Check out http://www.lyonshost.com "Jalynne" wrote in message ink.net... I thought I'd bring this to my family here...some of the ones I've chosen... DH and I have decided to cut off part of his family tonight. Without going into too much detail, they have been literally judging us and being completely unreasonable because we refuse to allow them to contact the child that we gave up for adoption when he was 3 days old. We kept trying to tell them that he's no longer a part of our family, and that when he is 18, he alone gets to choose whether to contact the rest of the family or not (we have an open adoption arrangement, so we do get regular contact already.). They just don't get it, and won't accept it. So...painfully...we are cutting out the unhealthy part of our lives and going on to live in good mental and emotional health. In a way I'm relieved, but it still hurts so much. What I'm asking for...and it's difficult to ask...is just for you all to keep caring, and to keep accepting me for who I am, and to send comforting vibes to me, but most especially to DH. He's really hurting over this. Thanks guys, you're the best! Off to do something to soothe my aching soul... -- Jalynne Queen Gypsy (snail mail available upon request) see what i've been up to at www.100megsfree4.com/jalynne |
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