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You pay the bill. The phone is meant to be there for 'your' convenience, not
the caller's. It feels good to recognize that and not jump like Pavlov's dog. Voice mail is a good thing. Diana "Kalera Stratton" wrote in message ... There is this notion, rampant among our society, that every human has the right to MAKE A BELL RING in any other human's house, WHETHER THEY ARE ACQUAINTED OR NOT, and that furthermore, the ringee has a social obligation to trot over and pick up the phone, and offer the ringer some kind of chitchat. I find this whole process mind-boggling. ANY jackass in the country can make a BELL RING in my living room, and I'm supposed to drool. I am even subject to chastisement "You never answer your phone! It's rude to just let it ring!" if I don't. Nonono. It's MY house. I am not a servant, I do not answer the beckoning of bells. If the phone rings and I'm available, relaxed and in the mood, I'll answer it. Otherwise, the sheer inhuman wierdness of a plastic bone with a voice coming out of one end will keep me far, far away. -Kalera http://www.beadwife.com http://www.snipurl.com/kebay |
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Thats another good reason to avoid phones. I have met so many people online
with a phone avoidance. I realize not everyone has the same reasons, and its interesting and enlightening to out myself then hear why its hated by others. One woman had a hearing impairment and people tended to mumble. I think I just like the subject of why people turn to, and find the internet a more comfortable medium for communication. Its a fascinating topic. Diana, wondering if a cell phone with an ear bud might help when the phone is a necessary evil for Sooz "Dr. Sooz" wrote in message ... And the phone hurts my neck. Something I consider always when talking on the (Satan's spawn!) phone.....Really good points, BTW, Diana dearest. Im not trying to be argumentative, but phone avoidance is not weird, its often a symptom of social phobia. Im going to guess that it isnt just social phobics who avoid using the phone but I have met (and have been) one of many I have met online who much prefer email to phone conversations. My theory is that while email takes away 2/3 of the communication which happens face to face its anonymity is more comfortable than using the phone, which eliminates just the visual clues which help us *read* another person's feelings. For me, this is a very uncomfortable situation. Diana ~~ Sooz |
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See, this is why a lot of those kinds of studies make me crazy. Look
around here and see people who might be isolated if they weren't on line, but there's a study saying the computer isolates people. So sometimes, it seems, whoever is conducting these types of surveys, they're looking in the wrong places for their answers; or, in the case of the internet, they're using "isolated" to mean no face-to-face contact, since words on screen don't really count, or something. Feh. Cheers, Carla (happy to be "isolated" with so many fabulous folks) Dr. Sooz wrote: 'cause I'm saying that in my case, computers are what prevent me from being isolated. -Kalera Me too. I find it terribly daunting to get out and about much of the time. I need the human contact computers give me to maintain any semblance of a social life. ~~ Sooz |
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wondering if a cell phone with an ear bud might help when the phone
is a necessary evil for Sooz It would. But it almost never happens that way....in other words, I almost never have to be on the phone. ~~ Sooz |
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That sounds gorgeous!
-Kalera http://www.beadwife.com http://www.snipurl.com/kebay vj wrote: vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from Kalera Stratton : ]I can hardly wait to see it! visualize a background of sterling silver, with stylized kelp and such . . . and the silver cut out from behind the cab, so it stays clear - so whatever color the person wears shows through.......... |
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Yes, for people whose energy resources are limited for whatever reason,
going out and seeing people in person is a once-in-a-while thing. Having a social group online is a wonderful way to open up the world. -Kalera http://www.beadwife.com http://www.snipurl.com/kebay Dr. Sooz wrote: 'cause I'm saying that in my case, computers are what prevent me from being isolated. -Kalera Me too. I find it terribly daunting to get out and about much of the time. I need the human contact computers give me to maintain any semblance of a social life. ~~ Sooz |
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The study I referred to was done by people who wanted to *promote* computer
use. That's one of the reasons I found their un-wished-for results to be more credible. Isolation is the term suggested by my psychologist, because the interaction has at least 2/3 of the normal, non-verbal (and least often incorrect) information. That flatness in the communication, and especially the huge increase of total information/data, in words and pictures, causes overstimulation/Depression. Tina "Carla" wrote in message ink.net... See, this is why a lot of those kinds of studies make me crazy. Look around here and see people who might be isolated if they weren't on line, but there's a study saying the computer isolates people. So sometimes, it seems, whoever is conducting these types of surveys, they're looking in the wrong places for their answers; or, in the case of the internet, they're using "isolated" to mean no face-to-face contact, since words on screen don't really count, or something. Feh. Cheers, Carla (happy to be "isolated" with so many fabulous folks) Dr. Sooz wrote: 'cause I'm saying that in my case, computers are what prevent me from being isolated. -Kalera Me too. I find it terribly daunting to get out and about much of the time. I need the human contact computers give me to maintain any semblance of a social life. ~~ Sooz |
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