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Oh, come on... she was just expressing an opinion, and frankly, whether
it bothers you or me or anyone else to be persistently asked personal questions in private email by people we don't know is irrelevant to her point, and while you think it's rude of her to express that opinion, I think it's even ruder for you to belittle her for it. -Kalera http://www.beadwife.com http://www.snipurl.com/kebay Craftology wrote: People have such chutzpah. ~~ Sooz Were you looking in the mirror when you typed that? OH....sorry....I really shouldn't have said that......it wasn't very nice. Caren |
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Anger and swearing I can take... but
deliberate humiliation and/or hurting of another human being goes against everything I believe in. No double standard there at all. SO let me get this straight. You would have preferred that I responded to Sooz's "kiss my ass" post by saying "lick my hole"? Or maybe "that's a bunch of horse ****?" Or "screw you Sooz" THAT is better to you? I'm ROFL here. |
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The thing is, an invitation to kiss one's ass is not ad hominem attack.
Calling someone an ass-kisser would be. "Takes one to know one" is. -Kalera http://www.beadwife.com http://www.snipurl.com/kebay Lisa D. wrote: bluemaxx wrote: I haven't read all the posts in these threads, just a few of them - and most all have been deleted unread. But I clicked on this post from craftology and it stood out. IMP, craftology has tried to humiliate Sooz with the post. But Sooz telling craftology to kiss her ass was perfectly okay? And for the record, I didn't say anything about Sooz's post because it didn't offend me. Believe me, in the forums I'm used to "kiss my ass" is pretty mild. What offends me is the apparent double standard I see going on here. Lisa |
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I think the point of Sooz's post was to make people wonder whether it
was a good idea to ask a question like that in private email before seeking public resources to answer the same question. There are people in my neighborhood who don't understand that it's rude to come ask me for a beer during my dinnertime. People I don't know, mind you... they just decided to come knock on my door. Just because they don't know doesn't mean they aren't being rude. Shouldn't someone tell them? I have said before that I like answering questions. It's true, I do enjoy it. That doesn't make Sooz wrong, though. If you don't know someone at least casually, should you perhaps think about looking at public resources for the asnwer to your question *before* sending a private email to a total stranger? -Kalera http://www.beadwife.com http://www.snipurl.com/kebay Craftology wrote: I'm not talking about anyone's Personal Feelings about whether or not they'd want to respond to this sort of person. I'm talking about the person asking in the first place. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Why assume the person asking has any idea that they shouldn't be asking? Caren |
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No, I don't think you quite have it... You can, and should, post
questions to the newsgroup about whatever you are interested in! Competitor or not. For that matter, most people here welcome private email questions from others they know from here on the group. What would be considered tactless would be if you were, say, a jewelry designer, and you emailed another, more successful jewelry designer who didn't know you at all, not even online, and asked them the name of their wholesaler and step-by-step directions for their really cool signature clasps. As I understand it, that's the sort of breach of manners that's being discussed here. -Kalera http://www.beadwife.com http://www.snipurl.com/kebay K. M. Chan wrote: Just want to make sure I understand so I don't get anyone mad at me... as long as I'm not a "competitor" (I take that to mean one who creates and sells beads and/or beadwork), it's okay to ask questions to the newsgroup (but not to an individual), right? Don't get me wrong -- I understand the sentiment (not wanting to help a competitor). If I was a bead seller I probably wouldn't want to be helpful to the "competition" either (I sell Mary Kay, and I doubt I'd want to help out an Avon Lady *grin*). It's just that when I saw the topic, I thought "Hey, neat topic, maybe I'll learn something!", but then was rather surprised when I saw what the topic really had to say. I love newsgroups and mailing lists where I can feel free to ask for advice, or am welcome to share. I've enjoyed this group for the last few months that I've been here (and was about to post a message to show off something I had made!) I've seen lots of beautiful work created by folks in this group, gotten many ideas, and learned a lot of neat things. I've also seen how nurturing the group can be to it's members, and have hoped to be able to spend more time interacting with folks in the group, and that's one of the reasons I keep coming back. The lurking and learning has been great, and I look forward to learning as much as I can from the experts (tho' I may just stay in lurk mode). JMHO, K |
#167
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Here is why I don't see lampwork artists as competitors the same way I see 2
people selling Swarovski crystal bicones as competitors. These two people are obviously competing: http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll...em=49089056 1 6&rd=1 http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll...em=49094051 3 9&rd=1 In my opinion the next two are not competing because they have very different styles. One I like, one I don't. So I don't see them as selling the same thing: http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll...tem=4908961 4 16&rd=1 http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll...9085 545&rd=1 |
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As a full-time professional lampworker, I both agree and disagree.
Fabulous photos will sell beads that are just OK, and bad photos will ruin the chance of selling fabulous beads. Lampwork artists are not selling the exact same item, but up to a point they might as well be... two sets of blue and white stacked dot or scroll beads, and the one with the better photos wins. More sellers mean lower prices because there are enough similar styles out there that the buyer who can't get set A for under $30 just moves on to set B which has no bids. Yes, we are competitors, in a way... not selling the same merchandise item for item, but competing for a piece of the market. -Kalera http://www.beadwife.com http://www.snipurl.com/kebay Craftology wrote: But -- have you LOOKED on eBay? I know, I kn ow, you have. You don't call that competition? I understand the concept of competition on eBay. In my opinion, simply the fact that there are many people selling lampwork on eBay does not make them competitors in the same way that those selling Swarovski bicones are competitors. Lampwork artists are not selling the same exact items. If your work is appealing and well priced, it will sell. If your work is outstanding it will likely sell at a higher price. There is no denying that good photos help to sell a product but fabulous photos of bad looking beads will not turn ugly into beautiful. Caren |
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Yup. Completely true.
And of course I also don't want to seem rude or snooty by ignoring people... who does? -Kalera http://www.beadwife.com http://www.snipurl.com/kebay Christina Peterson wrote: -snip- Though of course at some point you have to tell people to come in for classes or you won't have time to sell beads so you can pay your rent. Tina "Kalera Stratton" wrote in message ... I think your point about choosing a role as a teacher makes a lot of sense. Some people are SUPPOSED to be teachers... they can't help it. I think those that are natural teachers may have a hard time seeing the other side of the story. I know I am inclined toward teaching. At the same time, I live a life that is incredibly demanding and pressed for time, so although I enjoy asking questions, I also understand the other side of the equation... when people feel pressured and ambushed by questions. My auctions are NOT high-profile, so I'm not bombarded by questions... I get three or four per week, not per day. It's easy for me to be laid-back about them. -Kalera http://www.beadwife.com http://www.snipurl.com/kebay Dr. Sooz wrote: after reading some of these posts, I'll be thinking twice before purchasing from those who feel that helping someone less experienced is a nuisance. NOT a nuisance. They can't -- they just don't have the time to answer half a dozen detailed inquiries every couple of days! Perhaps if you don't want to be bothered with questions you shouldn't post your ads here or sell on the interent. I don't -- do your research before you tell me what to do. If the ad links to the auctions/websites with the great pictures can't be seen then maybe there won't be anyone to bother you with questions about those pictures. ----What? What are you talking about? You're just ****ed off that others aren't as Pollyanna, nor are they using up their entire day answering questions. You CHOSE your role as teacher. YOU answer the questions, and stop judging those who don'thave the time or inclination. Not everyone is Mother Teresa. I'm so freaking sorry. It's a choice. It's a limitation. Not all of us are you. I'm sorry, so sorry, I'm not the soul of generosity you are. Think I'll take down the ****ing Links List right now, in fact -- and Bead Notes too. And you can kiss my ass. ~~ Sooz |
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In article ,
(DreamBeadr) writes: I have also come to realize, mostly with the questions regarding my business, that a lot of folks are basically clueless that those questions are rude. They think asking a store owner where you get your product is perfectly normal. Blows my mind. I am wondering how many times they have walked into a clothing boutique and asked the owner where she gets her dresses from? When I ask such a question, I usually am asking about "origin" of the product-- like country, state, local, etc. That's how I answer such questions, too. It seems to satisfy most of the questioners, so you might consider that possibility before reaching for another nitroglycerine tablet.... I work at a combo gift and bead shop, and get "Where does it come from/where do you get this?" on all sorts of stuff. Most of the ethnic import "gifts" are labled/tagged with country of origin, but few of the beads are. However, I figure it's part of my job to know the source of them-- and ask my boss about new stock that I can't identify. Like, most of the pressed glass is from Czechloslovakia, most of the lampwork we have loose on the open container table is Chinese or Indian, the furnace glass is from local artisans, the silver is from Thailand, etc. I have to say "I don't know" occasionally, but less and less often. (PS: most of our dresses are from India....) Kaytee "Simplexities" on www.eclecticbeadery.com |
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