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Kathy N-V wrote: Okay, this has me wondering: now that we have the Internet and a whole bunch of tools at our disposal, who here has looked up an old lover? Have you contacted that lover? If so, what happened. I looked up the first love of my life several years ago, asked if he wanted to have a cup of tea and catch up, just for the heck of it. He wasn't interested, which hurt my feelings slightly. I had always admired him, as I was very young during our affair, and he was much older. I wanted to show him what kind of person I'd grown into, and I suppose I wanted him to approve. The place where the Boy Who Broke My Heart (BWBMH) went to work for, in Illinois, has kind of an online events and gossip page, so I checked that out more or less obsessively after he moved away, for a couple months. Eventually I lost interest, thankfully! The only person I wish I could find, but can't, is my first ex-husband, who was also my first boyfriend. He was a nice but really troubled guy, and a heroin junkie. I'd really love it if I could get in contact with him, but only if he's OK. I think it would break my heart if I found out he was still a junkie, or worse. -- -Kalera Mom of Juliet, 5, Sam, 3, and Ophelia, born 5/31/03 Wife of the incomparable Moxley of www.spaceplex.com See us at www.strattonhome.org |
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I had a seminar in Nome and called up a boy I met when I was 16. We had
lunch, on my 50th birthday, no less. But no new tech involved. I asked about him at the front desk. ("You mean Homer with those gorgeous eyes?"). He was still the slimgorgeous guy I met. He was still my most compatible type -- intuitive rational. My instincts as a young person were good. He had married a couple vivacious good looking but insecure women though, and the women in his life were very possessive and omewhat controlling. But he had done well in life, both in white man's world and in village life. And had great respect for the Native artists, and those who chose a subsistance lifestyle, even though he had chosen a different kind of success for himself. (He had described himself as a halfbreed when we were teenagers). I still admire him 37 years later. Tina "Kathy N-V" wrote in message .com... Okay, this has me wondering: now that we have the Internet and a whole bunch of tools at our disposal, who here has looked up an old lover? Have you contacted that lover? If so, what happened. My story is dull: I looked him up online, Discovered that he grew up to be ugly and bald and is a cop. (Bald wouldn't bother me if the rest of the package didn't turn out so yucky) He's a "lay minister" to some heavy duty evangelical church in Washington DC and has a crapload of kids. (Greater than 6 counts as a crapload to me) His wife looks just like me, or rather, the way I could have been expected to grow up from his time with me. I am unrecognizable from my college days: my face was reconstructed after the car accident, and my health has made me less attractive than I otherwise would be. Surprisingly, I was totally flat chested until I was in my early twenties, so that wouldn't be a good identifying factor, either. I recognized his face, was glad that we were together while he was still good looking and not a religious fanatic and/or cop, shut the web page and went no further. If he's found me, he's made no effort to contact me, Thank God. Kathy N-V |
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I think living well frees you from feeling as if you want or need
revenge. Why waste energy on resentment when life is really satisfying? Deirdre On Fri, 11 Jul 2003 09:01:41 -0700, "Karen_AZ" wrote: However, living well and making your own happiness, despite that negativity, is a very very good thing. |
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On Fri, 11 Jul 2003 16:32:35 GMT, Deirdre S.
wrote: I think living well frees you from feeling as if you want or need revenge. Why waste energy on resentment when life is really satisfying? Deirdre Too true. I don't have the energy to waste on hate and resentment. And I wouldn't waste it if I did! There are so many nicer places to use it. Barbara Dream Master www.dreamweaverstudio.com "We've got two lives, one we're given, the other one we make." Mary Chapin Carpenter |
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