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Sorry Jim, my answer now is what it was then. I refuse to be gagged about a specific subject, child sexual abuse, to cater to a persons (adult persons) tender feelings. There is never a right time in my view to shut up and sweep it under the carpet. Trish should have killfiled me if she found the talk repugnant, she had the ability to do so, whereas I have great personal reasons to argue the point forever. I have people from a local newsgroup coming over next weekend for a party. One of those people, a woman, has a severely retarded son aged 28. She was not going to bring him, even though I have a nice beach he would enjoy, as she felt it puts a damper on other people. We are now agreed, Kevin comes to the party and to hell with the other people and their sensitive feelings. If they can't handle it, it is their problem and manners apart, then they must leave. Sheena I am not quite sure why I am doing this, but let me try one more time. I am not in favour of censorship, preventing people from discussing what they like, discussing what people feel are important topics, etc. etc. But in life, I know there are some people one just does not discuss certain subjects with, because they feel so strongly about them. It is classic cost/benefit analysis. It is better not to discuss some things with some people; keeping friendship is far more important to trying to put the world right. With respect to Trish and pedophile priests, I know what the cost was. We lost Trish. Whose fault it was, hers, etc. is utterly irrelevant. But what was the benefit? Could you oblige my by giving some sort of statement as to what benefit you, or anyone else, derived from the discussion, and your opinion as to whether and why the benefit was really worth the cost. -- Jim Cripwell. The gods do not subtract from the allotted span of one's life, any time that is spent in stitching. Adapted from a sign on The Cobb, Lyme Regis, England. |
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If a person is so offended by a thread or a person - then all they have to
do (as has been repeated ad nauseum, so this time I`ll shout, ) is DON`T READ IT and /or KILLFILE THE PERSON WHO IS UPSETTING YOU!" Caryn" wrote in message ... agree with you Sheena, up to a point. It is one thing to inadvertently give someone offence, without realizing that you are doing anything wrong. It is an entirely different if someone is clearly offended by a particular thread, makes it clear that they are offended, and people still persist is pursuing the matter. That to me is just plain rude and insensitive, however reasonable, important, just, etc. people might think that the subject of the thread is. Jim, So, one person who is offended has the right to censor the rest of the group if they wish to discuss something that one person finds offensive? I thought Canada also believed in free speech....perhaps I'm wrong? Caryn Blue Wizard Designs http://hometown.aol.com/crzy4xst/index.html Updated: 7/7/03 -- now available Dragon of the Stars View WIPs at: http://community.webshots.com/user/carynlws (Caryn's UFO's) |
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F.James Cripwell wrote:
" With respect to Trish and pedophile priests, I know what the cost was. We lost Trish. Whose fault it was, hers, etc. is utterly irrelevant. But what was the benefit? Could you oblige my by giving some sort of statement as to what benefit you, or anyone else, derived from the discussion, and your opinion as to whether and why the benefit was really worth the cost." It is "personal" responsibility. I'm not responsible for Trish's feelings, or how she handles them. She is. That is basic psychology. It really comes down to censorship and the whims of any single individual. Even in the discussion of needlework, some of these topics can get pretty heated. So, where does the cost/benefit ratio become an issue? It doesn't. You glean from discussion what you want and discard the rest. If it's too painful, you walk away. If you feel like fighting back in defense of your position, you do it - although hammering people over the head with it never does any good. I'm guilty, at times. I try to remember not to. Yes, I try to treat people fairly, without attacking them personally. I would rather defend an "idea" than to offend an individual. I will fight to the figurative death for anyone who has been personally attacked. I've been the recipient of such attacks and it goes beyond the pale. Anyone who does that here (or anywhere else) should be ignored, at least for a time. But it is (and was) my personal responbility how I handle such attacks. Regarding issues, one can argue that arguing over them doesn't help . . .. but sometimes it does. You never know who is lurking, reading, learning. Maybe the cost/benefit ratio lies therein. Who is to judge what someone learns from these conversations - often in a very positive way? Dianne - who wonders if this makes her a liberal or still a centrist? |
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animaux wrote:
However, since we're exercising our freedom of speech, I think you are a [snipped]. I actually, through the cyber walls of Earth, feel [snipped} whenever I see a post from you. You are also a [snipped] and [snipped]. I think this goes "over the line", Victoria. That's personal. Attack the idea, not the person. You might feel this way, and you're entitlted, but this isn't a room full of our closest friends with which we feel whatever we say is "confidential" and harmless. You went on to say a few more things I don't think are fair. I snipped the rest. Let's keep this civil. Dianne |
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I think, Diane, that has been the basis of most of the unpleasant wars on
this group, and most probably many other groups as well. Someone in the heat of the moment, fires off their immediate thoughts; then others take the pros or cons of that "zinger", and it escalated from there. This is where the really nasty personal hurts come in. We aren't all thick-skinned; some feel slights more than others. Disagreement is fine, but personal pummelling isn't it. I have been responsible for a few nasty comments; however I am a slow typist (I type with two fingers each hand), and have to read over what I just typed before sending it. I have deleted a lot of posts after I have done this! You can have a discussion, and still keep it within the limits of civility and courtesy. I also marked this OT, simply because that has been a tad overlooked recently, VBG. Gillian "Dianne Lewandowski" wrote in message ... animaux wrote: However, since we're exercising our freedom of speech, I think you are a [snipped]. I actually, through the cyber walls of Earth, feel [snipped} whenever I see a post from you. You are also a [snipped] and [snipped]. I think this goes "over the line", Victoria. That's personal. Attack the idea, not the person. You might feel this way, and you're entitlted, but this isn't a room full of our closest friends with which we feel whatever we say is "confidential" and harmless. You went on to say a few more things I don't think are fair. I snipped the rest. Let's keep this civil. Dianne |
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animaux wrote:
However, since we're exercising our freedom of speech, I think you are a [snipped]. I actually, through the cyber walls of Earth, feel [snipped} whenever I see a post from you. You are also a [snipped] and [snipped]. I think this goes "over the line", Victoria. That's personal. Attack the idea, not the person. You might feel this way, and you're entitlted, but this isn't a room full of our closest friends with which we feel whatever we say is "confidential" and harmless. You went on to say a few more things I don't think are fair. I snipped the rest. Let's keep this civil. Dianne I agree with Dianne 100%. This post was much too personal and should have been taken to email. My mother would have called it, "the height of ill manners" and I would have to agree with her. Personal attacks tend to reflect more on the sender than the receiver. Please, can't we all get along and be more thoughtful of others???? A suggestion, write what you(collectively) feel about a situation but try to keep the vitriol and personal defamation to a minimum if unable to restrain yourself. Eleanor the Elder |
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Oh, but Pat, you can't use the term "killfile". You-know-who might get
offended. (tongue in cheek) Meredith Pat Porter wrote: If a person is so offended by a thread or a person - then all they have to do (as has been repeated ad nauseum, so this time I`ll shout, ) is DON`T READ IT and /or KILLFILE THE PERSON WHO IS UPSETTING YOU!" Caryn" wrote in message ... agree with you Sheena, up to a point. It is one thing to inadvertently give someone offence, without realizing that you are doing anything wrong. It is an entirely different if someone is clearly offended by a particular thread, makes it clear that they are offended, and people still persist is pursuing the matter. That to me is just plain rude and insensitive, however reasonable, important, just, etc. people might think that the subject of the thread is. Jim, So, one person who is offended has the right to censor the rest of the group if they wish to discuss something that one person finds offensive? I thought Canada also believed in free speech....perhaps I'm wrong? Caryn Blue Wizard Designs http://hometown.aol.com/crzy4xst/index.html Updated: 7/7/03 -- now available Dragon of the Stars View WIPs at: http://community.webshots.com/user/carynlws (Caryn's UFO's) |
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