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The Diplomatic Solution
I think your husband is right.... that would be my plan as well.
Mary "dogsnus" wrote in message ... My SIL, the one who gave me all the free fabric called all excited with an idea she wants to do for me on The Baby quilt. It's a grand idea and I like it: She wants to use her Bernina to make Raggedy Ann and Andy's and red teddybears on 10" white squares. The problem is, she wants me to put my current baby quilt aside and worry about it later and use her idea exclusively. Hmmm... 2 problems with that_ idea: 1) She didn't listen to me when I said I wanted this one to be entirely from me from start to finish and very special because this is my first natural grandchild coming. At first,I was at first feeling a bit stubborn, as if she were taking over my project, but I realized that's stupid and a waste of energy and emotion to feel like that. 2) While an exceptional quilter, she's very slow and unable to conform to any kind of timeline. It's taken her almost a year to get my step-daughter's quilt finished and two weeks later after getting a box from me, she still hasn't mailed it and the baby is a month old now. She's also working on a beautiful puff quilt for another friend and that baby is now 6 months old. My goal(s) are to get the quilt to the expectant parents before the baby is born. I want them to have time to play with it, arrange the empty nursery and dream a little before they get busy with a new infant in thier lives. We're very different types of people that can find lots in common in lots of areas, but I'm much more goal oriented while she's the true definition of a dreamer and putterer. My husband and I kind of kicked it around and his solution seemed the most diplomatic. I'm going to contine on with my plans as normal and just not mention it to her unless she asks, and also work with her on her idea. The quilt of my design will have a little tag on it stating it's from Grandma and the one we collaberate on will say it's from Grandma AND Great-Auntie. My grand-daughter will get two quilts instead of one and at least one of those quilts will be on my timeline. I don't know how other people would have handled this, but I'm a bit curious if anyone else ever had this type of situation crop up. And, my original baby quilt has been set temporarily aside so I can take a complete break from it until I can decide what design changes I'm going to make on it. Terri |
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I think you have a very nice, very diplomatic solution. But, based on
history, you probably won't have to worry about it for a while, since you may have to wait until the new baby graduates from college before you see those Raggedy Ann squares. Linda F. |
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You're doing the right thing. Anyhow, I can't think why she would be
offended if you want to make your own quilt in addition to the collaboration. Her idea sounds charming, but it's just too frustrating to have to wait for somebody else to finish before you can start. I've worked with putterers before. Best not to hold your breath. If she finishes her blocks, great. If not, you'll still have a quilt for the baby. Roberta in D "dogsnus" wrote in message ... My SIL, the one who gave me all the free fabric called all excited with an idea she wants to do for me on The Baby quilt. It's a grand idea and I like it: She wants to use her Bernina to make Raggedy Ann and Andy's and red teddybears on 10" white squares. The problem is, she wants me to put my current baby quilt aside and worry about it later and use her idea exclusively. Hmmm... 2 problems with that_ idea: 1) She didn't listen to me when I said I wanted this one to be entirely from me from start to finish and very special because this is my first natural grandchild coming. At first,I was at first feeling a bit stubborn, as if she were taking over my project, but I realized that's stupid and a waste of energy and emotion to feel like that. 2) While an exceptional quilter, she's very slow and unable to conform to any kind of timeline. It's taken her almost a year to get my step-daughter's quilt finished and two weeks later after getting a box from me, she still hasn't mailed it and the baby is a month old now. She's also working on a beautiful puff quilt for another friend and that baby is now 6 months old. My goal(s) are to get the quilt to the expectant parents before the baby is born. I want them to have time to play with it, arrange the empty nursery and dream a little before they get busy with a new infant in thier lives. We're very different types of people that can find lots in common in lots of areas, but I'm much more goal oriented while she's the true definition of a dreamer and putterer. My husband and I kind of kicked it around and his solution seemed the most diplomatic. I'm going to contine on with my plans as normal and just not mention it to her unless she asks, and also work with her on her idea. The quilt of my design will have a little tag on it stating it's from Grandma and the one we collaberate on will say it's from Grandma AND Great-Auntie. My grand-daughter will get two quilts instead of one and at least one of those quilts will be on my timeline. I don't know how other people would have handled this, but I'm a bit curious if anyone else ever had this type of situation crop up. And, my original baby quilt has been set temporarily aside so I can take a complete break from it until I can decide what design changes I'm going to make on it. Terri |
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And if she finds out you're still working on the other one and gets huffy,
you can tell her "it's just something to do while I'm waiting on you to have the blocks ready....." --pig On 1/28/04 10:41, opined: You're doing the right thing. Anyhow, I can't think why she would be offended if you want to make your own quilt in addition to the collaboration. Her idea sounds charming, but it's just too frustrating to have to wait for somebody else to finish before you can start. I've worked with putterers before. Best not to hold your breath. If she finishes her blocks, great. If not, you'll still have a quilt for the baby. Roberta in D |
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You aren't 'giving it up' you a
Fine Tuning It Start thinking that way and it will make it easier to change things as you go along', First, changing your 'thinking' is about the hardest part If it helps any--and you have a camera--take pix of setting one and then setting two after the 'fine tuning session'. Compare pix--which one sings to you. sSunds like you are doing right by SIL--go slow--just don't let her snowball you from the get go and she won't try later on, once your friendship is established. (Easier said than done) HTH Butterfly "dogsnus" wrote in message ... "Roberta Zollner" wrote in - online.com: You're doing the right thing. Anyhow, I can't think why she would be offended if you want to make your own quilt in addition to the collaboration. Me either, but I don't know her all that well yet. I only met her once in 2002 briefly, the year before we moved down here, and I'm still feeling my way. Part of this desired diplomacy comes from the aspect of my husband getting to know his sister again ,since they hadn't seen each other in over 30 years. I would rather not be the source of any strain in their getting re-aquainted again, if I can help it. (That doesn't mean I'm the sort of person who wears a welcome mat on their back, far from it.) But I'm willing to overlook a lot of potentially petty stuff right now in this particular situation. Note: The clues are slowly beginning to turn into a pattern so far, though. On my first quilt, she helped me with the binding as I'd never done that before. She now refers to it as "our" quilt, even though I'm the one who spent 4 solid months embroidering it; most of it through a cross country move, too. I've not bothered to correct her and just smile. It's enough for me to know that it was my work. Her idea sounds charming, but it's just too frustrating to have to wait for somebody else to finish before you can start. I've worked with putterers before. Best not to hold your breath. If she finishes her blocks, great. If not, you'll still have a quilt for the baby. Yes, our thoughts too. Love her to death so far, but I'm already well aware at her lack of organizational skills. Fortunately, I also have a putterer sister who trained me early in life, and I know how to just go around them and get things done with a minimum of mental effort expended. I was just curious how others handled this type of person from a quilting aspect and it seems as if you've had experience with it. And, my original baby quilt has been set temporarily aside so I can take a complete break from it until I can decide what design changes I'm going to make on it. the Baby Quilt, I tore out all the quilting stitches last night and have decided to recut the white fabric and make a Biscuit quilt, combined with some sublte red print on white, that I got in my recent windfall. I saw one in a book I got from the library and liked it. Hopefully I'll get it finished this weekend. I'll do the feather quilting on another quilt at another time. I've discovered that my inablity to come up with another idea was due to my reluctance to part with an idea once I'd made a descision. I don't like changing my plans once I've commited to them. Personality trait of mine. I don't like to give up. Terri |
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sounds like you should do what you want since it is for your
grandchild... finish this quilt as you had planned. if she takes so much time with her projects, anyway, you can work on the other quilt later if you want to... dogsnus wrote: My SIL, the one who gave me all the free fabric called all excited with an idea she wants to do for me on The Baby quilt. It's a grand idea and I like it: She wants to use her Bernina to make Raggedy Ann and Andy's and red teddybears on 10" white squares. The problem is, she wants me to put my current baby quilt aside and worry about it later and use her idea exclusively. Hmmm... -- Dr. Quilter Ambassador of Extraordinary Aliens (take the dog out before replying) |
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Glad to be of help : )
Butterfly "dogsnus" wrote in message ... "Butterfly" wrote in : You aren't 'giving it up' you a Fine Tuning It Heh. Works for me! Start thinking that way and it will make it easier to change things as you go along', First, changing your 'thinking' is about the hardest part If it helps any--and you have a camera--take pix of setting one and then setting two after the 'fine tuning session'. Compare pix--which one sings to you. Thanks for the idea. Terri |
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I've not bothered to correct her and just smile. It's enough for me
to know that it was my work There is no end to the good you can do if you don't care who gets the credit... Don't remember where the quote came from, but I remind myself of it often when working with glory-grabbers. Janet |
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