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Old June 2nd 04, 11:27 PM
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We have our first family wedding coming up and DS is invited to my nephew's
bachelor party. Is he expected to bring a gift? It just occurred to me
today that could be a possibility and he would be embarrassed if it were the
norm and he didn't bring one. Thanks for your advice!

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Old June 3rd 04, 12:00 AM
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I think he's just sposed to bring a stripper. I could be wrong tho. I get my
info from bad tv shows/movies.

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We have our first family wedding coming up and DS is invited to my

nephew's
bachelor party. Is he expected to bring a gift? It just occurred to me
today that could be a possibility and he would be embarrassed if it were

the
norm and he didn't bring one. Thanks for your advice!

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Old June 3rd 04, 12:16 AM
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We got our gifts the night before the wedding at a get together at our
apartment. Then the boys under 50 yrs old all went out together to a strip
club. I think that instead of a gift, all the boys buy the groom drinks and
lap dances.


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Old June 3rd 04, 12:21 AM
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not that I am aware of.....usually gifts are given to the
bride....however, if it is a serious concern, he should ask the host if
there is anything that he should bring

KJ wrote:
We have our first family wedding coming up and DS is invited to my nephew's
bachelor party. Is he expected to bring a gift? It just occurred to me
today that could be a possibility and he would be embarrassed if it were the
norm and he didn't bring one. Thanks for your advice!


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Old June 3rd 04, 02:24 AM
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I think the best gift would be to tell the groom that bachelor parties are
tacky, if there is any stripper involved!! (but, that's just my opinion!)

DH just took a few of his friends to a sporting event...very civilized...(well,
at least everyone was clothed...I'm not sure they were civilized! and it was
all MEN! rofl)

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Old June 3rd 04, 03:49 AM
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I know the group is going to go play (if that's the right word) paintball.
Then dinner somewhere. There may be some skin involved just for chuckles,
but knowing this group...it wouldn't be hardcore.

"LC aka Fiddy" wrote in message
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I think the best gift would be to tell the groom that bachelor parties are
tacky, if there is any stripper involved!! (but, that's just my opinion!)

DH just took a few of his friends to a sporting event...very

civilized...(well,
at least everyone was clothed...I'm not sure they were civilized! and it

was
all MEN! rofl)

The Blessed Fiddy, Patroness Saint of the Disorganized
LC in Sunny So Cal
Personality Development Specialist (Full-Time Mom!)



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Old June 3rd 04, 03:01 PM
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KJ wrote:

I know the group is going to go play (if that's the right word) paintball.
Then dinner somewhere. There may be some skin involved just for chuckles,
but knowing this group...it wouldn't be hardcore.


I've never heard of a bachelor party that involved a gift- usually it's
a pay-your-own-way evening, and the pleasure of your company expected.

Usually, it's pass-the-hat for costs so the groom doesn't buy anything
all evening. So he should expect to help cover the groom's paintball
fees and drinks.

When a couple hosts a get-together the night before their wedding,
usually if there are gifts, they are what you would be giving them for
the wedding (so you can watch them open them) and their gifts to their
wedding party), and this is done early, so you can relax and just enjoy
everyone's company. This is what we did for our wedding, and I've seen
it done with other couples as well.

-georg

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Old June 3rd 04, 05:18 PM
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Thanks! I did give him extra $$ for the weekend as he's a poor college art
major. Looks like that's the best thing to send along.
I love the idea of the couple opening gifts together with their
well-wishers! I'll have to keep that in mind when/if! my kids get to that
stage!



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KJ wrote:

I know the group is going to go play (if that's the right word)

paintball.
Then dinner somewhere. There may be some skin involved just for

chuckles,
but knowing this group...it wouldn't be hardcore.


I've never heard of a bachelor party that involved a gift- usually it's
a pay-your-own-way evening, and the pleasure of your company expected.

Usually, it's pass-the-hat for costs so the groom doesn't buy anything
all evening. So he should expect to help cover the groom's paintball
fees and drinks.

When a couple hosts a get-together the night before their wedding,
usually if there are gifts, they are what you would be giving them for
the wedding (so you can watch them open them) and their gifts to their
wedding party), and this is done early, so you can relax and just enjoy
everyone's company. This is what we did for our wedding, and I've seen
it done with other couples as well.

-georg



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Old June 4th 04, 08:20 PM
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Well, as this thread illustrates, customs vary from place to
place. Even so, I've never heard of gifts given at the bachelor
party. In our circles it is usually a nice event hosted by the
groomsmen. The guests are the groom, the male relatives, and some
close male friends. For DS2 the guys had a cook out supper of hot
dogs, salads, etc. at a beach, then played Frisbee and so on. The
age range was teen through all the uncles and dads. No wild
drinking, though there may have been some beer on hand. Certainly
no strippers and trashy dancing. Just some family fun.
PAT

KJ wrote:

We have our first family wedding coming up and DS is invited to my nephew's
bachelor party. Is he expected to bring a gift? It just occurred to me
today that could be a possibility and he would be embarrassed if it were the
norm and he didn't bring one. Thanks for your advice!


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Old June 5th 04, 12:30 AM
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My DH doesn't drink and wasn't interested in doing anything "silly", and
most of his friends were from work (military or contractor) and married.
The best man had a cookout at his house, and they all retired to the
basement for cigars and poker.

Just talked with DH, and he suggests:
-talking to the host (best man?) to see if there is anything that your
DS needs to bring
-might want to bring box of nice cigars (if they smoke)
-may be asked to contribute to the cost of a keg (if that is the theme
of the party)

L

Pat in Virginia wrote:
Well, as this thread illustrates, customs vary from place to place. Even
so, I've never heard of gifts given at the bachelor party. In our
circles it is usually a nice event hosted by the groomsmen. The guests
are the groom, the male relatives, and some close male friends. For DS2
the guys had a cook out supper of hot dogs, salads, etc. at a beach,
then played Frisbee and so on. The age range was teen through all the
uncles and dads. No wild drinking, though there may have been some beer
on hand. Certainly no strippers and trashy dancing. Just some family fun.
PAT

KJ wrote:

We have our first family wedding coming up and DS is invited to my
nephew's
bachelor party. Is he expected to bring a gift? It just occurred to me
today that could be a possibility and he would be embarrassed if it
were the
norm and he didn't bring one. Thanks for your advice!



 




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