Gifting a "used" quilt?

I purposely gave my dad a quilt I wasn't very attached to-- a completed
on-line mystery that was a bit of a disappointment--in case the quilt ended
up in the institutional laundry at the home where he lives. It's an okay
quilt--nothing special, but it has some neat fabrics in it. Therein lies the
problem: the lady who plays the piano and sings for the folks in commented
on the "musical instrument" fabric in the quilt when she noticed it on dad's
chair. This lady has been exceptionally kind to my dad.

Somewhat hesitantly, dad asked me if he could give the lady the quilt. What
to do? This quilt is obviously "used"--although not in tatters by any means,
it has the odd spot and broken thread from a couple of years as a sofa quilt
in our basement TV room before dad got it. It also has dad's name written on
one of the borders. I could "fake" an inscription on the border "to Yvonne
from G. Munch" and I could repair any obvious poor spots, but it's still a
USED quilt. On the other hand, I have a bit of the instrument fabric left --
enough for the focus print in a lap quilt. My inclination is to make a new
quilt with the same fabric as a real gift for this dear lady.

What do you all think? Don't want to hurt dad's feelings; don't want the
lady to think he thought she was hinting that he should give her the quilt.

--
Kim Graham
http://members.shaw.ca/kigraham
Nanaimo, BC, Canada
THE WORD IN PATCHWORK

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Kim Graham
http://members.shaw.ca/kigraham
Nanaimo, BC, Canada
THE WORD IN PATCHWORK

Kim, could you just tell your dad that you still have some of the fabric on
hand and have been looking for a way to put it to good use, and that making
a new quilt for the piano lady would be something you'd really like to do?
That way he'd feel he was making two people happy -- you AND the piano lady!
--
Louise in Iowa
nieland4 at mchsi dot com
http://community.webshots.com/user/louiseiniowa

"KI Graham" wrote in message
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I purposely gave my dad a quilt I wasn't very attached to-- a completed
on-line mystery that was a bit of a disappointment--in case the quilt
ended
up in the institutional laundry at the home where he lives. It's an okay
quilt--nothing special, but it has some neat fabrics in it. Therein lies
the
problem: the lady who plays the piano and sings for the folks in commented
on the "musical instrument" fabric in the quilt when she noticed it on
dad's
chair. This lady has been exceptionally kind to my dad.

Somewhat hesitantly, dad asked me if he could give the lady the quilt.
What
to do? This quilt is obviously "used"--although not in tatters by any
means,
it has the odd spot and broken thread from a couple of years as a sofa
quilt
in our basement TV room before dad got it. It also has dad's name written
on
one of the borders. I could "fake" an inscription on the border "to Yvonne
from G. Munch" and I could repair any obvious poor spots, but it's still a
USED quilt. On the other hand, I have a bit of the instrument fabric
left --
enough for the focus print in a lap quilt. My inclination is to make a new
quilt with the same fabric as a real gift for this dear lady.

What do you all think? Don't want to hurt dad's feelings; don't want the
lady to think he thought she was hinting that he should give her the
quilt.

--
Kim Graham
http://members.shaw.ca/kigraham
Nanaimo, BC, Canada
THE WORD IN PATCHWORK

--
Kim Graham
http://members.shaw.ca/kigraham
Nanaimo, BC, Canada
THE WORD IN PATCHWORK

In article cUr_c.318893$gE.197580@pd7tw3no,
"KI Graham" wrote:

I purposely gave my dad a quilt I wasn't very attached to-- a completed
on-line mystery that was a bit of a disappointment--in case the quilt ended
up in the institutional laundry at the home where he lives. It's an okay
quilt--nothing special, but it has some neat fabrics in it. Therein lies the
problem: the lady who plays the piano and sings for the folks in commented
on the "musical instrument" fabric in the quilt when she noticed it on dad's
chair. This lady has been exceptionally kind to my dad.

Somewhat hesitantly, dad asked me if he could give the lady the quilt. What
to do? This quilt is obviously "used"--although not in tatters by any means,
it has the odd spot and broken thread from a couple of years as a sofa quilt
in our basement TV room before dad got it. It also has dad's name written on
one of the borders. I could "fake" an inscription on the border "to Yvonne
from G. Munch" and I could repair any obvious poor spots, but it's still a
USED quilt. On the other hand, I have a bit of the instrument fabric left --
enough for the focus print in a lap quilt. My inclination is to make a new
quilt with the same fabric as a real gift for this dear lady.

What do you all think? Don't want to hurt dad's feelings; don't want the
lady to think he thought she was hinting that he should give her the quilt.

--
Kim Graham
http://members.shaw.ca/kigraham
Nanaimo, BC, Canada
THE WORD IN PATCHWORK


I think your idea is the best one. Can you explain to your dad that
you'd enjoy making this lady a quilt of her own?
--
Sandy in Henderson, near Las Vegas
my ISP is earthlink.net -- put sfoster1(at) in front
http://home.earthlink.net/~sfoster1

Make her a pillow. It's a more appropriate sized gift and she won't be
embarrassed by something that obviously took a great deal of work.
Morag in Detroit

My inclination is to make a new
quilt with the same fabric as a real gift for this dear lady.

If dad doesn't use the quilt often I would give it to her with the added
inscription. If dad does use it then I would make her a lap quilt.
Personally I think either way she would be happy. Or you could make a
new one for dad as well. I know even if it was used I would be thrilled.
Joanna

KI Graham wrote:

I purposely gave my dad a quilt I wasn't very attached to-- a completed
on-line mystery that was a bit of a disappointment--in case the quilt ended
up in the institutional laundry at the home where he lives. It's an okay
quilt--nothing special, but it has some neat fabrics in it. Therein lies the
problem: the lady who plays the piano and sings for the folks in commented
on the "musical instrument" fabric in the quilt when she noticed it on dad's
chair. This lady has been exceptionally kind to my dad.

Somewhat hesitantly, dad asked me if he could give the lady the quilt. What
to do? This quilt is obviously "used"--although not in tatters by any means,
it has the odd spot and broken thread from a couple of years as a sofa quilt
in our basement TV room before dad got it. It also has dad's name written on
one of the borders. I could "fake" an inscription on the border "to Yvonne
from G. Munch" and I could repair any obvious poor spots, but it's still a
USED quilt. On the other hand, I have a bit of the instrument fabric left --
enough for the focus print in a lap quilt. My inclination is to make a new
quilt with the same fabric as a real gift for this dear lady.

What do you all think? Don't want to hurt dad's feelings; don't want the
lady to think he thought she was hinting that he should give her the quilt.


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Remove Quilt to reply

I think the pillow idea is great. It won't take you a lot of time. She won't
feel like she had been hinting for a quilt. Your Dad can give her somethingwith
the fabric she likes. All are happy!

She

I'm thinking a wall hanging instead of a pillow.....

Specifically, you could make it something of a "thank you" for her taking
the time to do what she does for these folks.......

--pig


On 9/4/04 21:01, in article ,
"DJDREVNA" wrote:

I think the pillow idea is great. It won't take you a lot of time. She won't
feel like she had been hinting for a quilt. Your Dad can give her
somethingwith
the fabric she likes. All are happy!

She

-- pig

http://www.faloshi-studios.com/

Hullo Kim
What a kind Dad.
I think he might have said this, because he would not have wanted to ask
you to make another for the kind lady.
All your reasons for worrying about giving *that* quilt are valid.
I think it would be a great thing to make her one of her own. It might
be a little OTT perhaps, and maybe a smaller object might be right, but
sometimes we have to break the mould!
Perhaps use a pattern which would be quick and easy, so that the lady
wouldn't feel overwhelmed?
Say straight out to the lady that you know she wasn't hinting to be
given his quilt.
I think everyone will be happy in this scenario. Good for you, Kim.
..
In article cUr_c.318893$gE.197580@pd7tw3no, KI Graham
writes
I purposely gave my dad a quilt I wasn't very attached to-- a completed
on-line mystery that was a bit of a disappointment--in case the quilt ended
up in the institutional laundry at the home where he lives. It's an okay
quilt--nothing special, but it has some neat fabrics in it. Therein lies the
problem: the lady who plays the piano and sings for the folks in commented
on the "musical instrument" fabric in the quilt when she noticed it on dad's
chair. This lady has been exceptionally kind to my dad.

Somewhat hesitantly, dad asked me if he could give the lady the quilt. What
to do? This quilt is obviously "used"--although not in tatters by any means,
it has the odd spot and broken thread from a couple of years as a sofa quilt
in our basement TV room before dad got it. It also has dad's name written on
one of the borders. I could "fake" an inscription on the border "to Yvonne
from G. Munch" and I could repair any obvious poor spots, but it's still a
USED quilt. On the other hand, I have a bit of the instrument fabric left --
enough for the focus print in a lap quilt. My inclination is to make a new
quilt with the same fabric as a real gift for this dear lady.

What do you all think? Don't want to hurt dad's feelings; don't want the
lady to think he thought she was hinting that he should give her the quilt.

--
Kim Graham
http://members.shaw.ca/kigraham
Nanaimo, BC, Canada
THE WORD IN PATCHWORK


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Best Regards
pat on the hill

Kim,
This may be one of those times to take it at face value. As we know as
quilters, how many times do we wish we had some of those old 'used'
quilts. The ones we find at the garage sales along the way with no
history no connection to us just a wonderful find from years ago.
It seems to me the value of this quilt is in what it means to your
dad and how he 'uses' it and and wants to 'use' it in the future. That
your dad what to gift this very special gift to someone he is obviously
fond of is touching. In a way he is giving a part of his family to
someone else that will always be alive somewhere else. This quilt, even
though it may not have been one of those really special quilts you made
for yourself have been very special for your dad. Having your dad's
name written in it will always remind this woman of your father and the
importance he has had in her life too.
just my thoughts on the subject.
juliasb

KI Graham wrote:
I purposely gave my dad a quilt I wasn't very attached to-- a completed
on-line mystery that was a bit of a disappointment--in case the quilt ended
up in the institutional laundry at the home where he lives. It's an okay
quilt--nothing special, but it has some neat fabrics in it. Therein lies the
problem: the lady who plays the piano and sings for the folks in commented
on the "musical instrument" fabric in the quilt when she noticed it on dad's
chair. This lady has been exceptionally kind to my dad.

Somewhat hesitantly, dad asked me if he could give the lady the quilt. What
to do? This quilt is obviously "used"--although not in tatters by any means,
it has the odd spot and broken thread from a couple of years as a sofa quilt
in our basement TV room before dad got it. It also has dad's name written on
one of the borders. I could "fake" an inscription on the border "to Yvonne
from G. Munch" and I could repair any obvious poor spots, but it's still a
USED quilt. On the other hand, I have a bit of the instrument fabric left --
enough for the focus print in a lap quilt. My inclination is to make a new
quilt with the same fabric as a real gift for this dear lady.

What do you all think? Don't want to hurt dad's feelings; don't want the
lady to think he thought she was hinting that he should give her the quilt.

If neither you nor your dad are very attached to the quilt, why not let him
have the pleasure of giving a gift? No need to do anything to it except make
sure it's clean. Of course, you could discuss it with him, and if you feel
like making a new quilt with a more musical theme, that would be nice too.
You could still let him present it to the lady.
Roberta in D

"KI Graham" wrote in message
news:cUr_c.318893$gE.197580@pd7tw3no...
I purposely gave my dad a quilt I wasn't very attached to-- a completed
on-line mystery that was a bit of a disappointment--in case the quilt
ended
up in the institutional laundry at the home where he lives. It's an okay
quilt--nothing special, but it has some neat fabrics in it. Therein lies
the
problem: the lady who plays the piano and sings for the folks in commented
on the "musical instrument" fabric in the quilt when she noticed it on
dad's
chair. This lady has been exceptionally kind to my dad.

Somewhat hesitantly, dad asked me if he could give the lady the quilt.
What
to do? This quilt is obviously "used"--although not in tatters by any
means,
it has the odd spot and broken thread from a couple of years as a sofa
quilt
in our basement TV room before dad got it. It also has dad's name written
on
one of the borders. I could "fake" an inscription on the border "to Yvonne
from G. Munch" and I could repair any obvious poor spots, but it's still a
USED quilt. On the other hand, I have a bit of the instrument fabric
left --
enough for the focus print in a lap quilt. My inclination is to make a new
quilt with the same fabric as a real gift for this dear lady.

What do you all think? Don't want to hurt dad's feelings; don't want the
lady to think he thought she was hinting that he should give her the
quilt.

--
Kim Graham
http://members.shaw.ca/kigraham
Nanaimo, BC, Canada
THE WORD IN PATCHWORK

--
Kim Graham
http://members.shaw.ca/kigraham
Nanaimo, BC, Canada
THE WORD IN PATCHWORK