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Not real sure what happened to...
this group.
I left this group over a year ago because of all the hate mail, snide remarks, and general bitchy-ness of the group. I had been here for the better part of 5 years when I left. I had taken a year off in there somewhere because of a lack of internet access. I'm a recipient of a HUG. I've participated in HUGs. And NOTHING ****es me off more than to see people whining about their blocks not going into the designated quilt. At least the blocks are being used, for someone, somewhere. The only reason I came back was because I got a message from Larissa this morning, asking why I didn't join the chat last night. I asked what was going on, and she filled me in. She also mentioned to me that she had brought me up in a post, recently. Well here I am, and mad as hell. I'm ****ED because we have dying and injured soldiers that need hugs, and on this group - which USED to be the most loving and generous group I had EVER seen - we have someone that tried to start a hug, and for whatever reason, couldn't fit all the blocks in, and wanted to send those blocks to be put into someone else's quilt. People got ****ed, started screaming, and now, because of your stupid little temper tantrum, some soldier that really needs it, probably won't have a quilt. Why? Because you are being selfish. Grow up. Am I a soldiers advocate? You can bet your ass I am. I'm still a Proud Army Wife, who's husband is DEPLOYED. Yes ladies, my beloved husband is in IRAQ. That good lookin guy that 39 of you came together to make a hug for when we got married almost 3 years ago, is in Iraq. He's been gone since January. I haven't hugged him, or cuddled him since January. It will be the end of October before he comes home on R&R, and who knows when after that before he comes home for good. We've lost a couple soldiers from his unit. The most recent one was blown to bits by a land mine. That same mine that took his life, left a young wife a widow (she is only 23) and 2 kids without a daddy. It also took the eyesight of one, and the legs of another, . And here you sit, bitching about a few scraps of fabric. You make me sick. This group used to be about loving strangers enough to try to help with hugs. This group used to be about being there for one another. Not name calling, not finger pointing, and the only people we had to kill-file were the damn trolls. Yeah times change. I know that as well as anyone else. But I never thought I'd see a bunch of quilters behaving like this. I'm leaving again, probably never to return again (so don't email me and beg me to come back). I didn't alter my email address when I set up my newsreader, just so it would be easier to send me hate mail. Bring it. Bring on the flames and the hate mail. My skin is hella thicker now than it was before. Just be forewarned that you probably won't get an answer out of me if you send hate mail...I'll be too busy laughing at how petty you are, and too busy clicking the delete button. Have a nice day. . Karlee, still in Kansas |
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good to see you back Karlee.
You have been missed and though of often. Dee in Oz |
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Karlee In Kansas wrote:
This group used to be about loving strangers enough to try to help with hugs. This group used to be about being there for one another. Not name calling, not finger pointing, and the only people we had to kill-file were the damn trolls. Yeah times change. I know that as well as anyone else. But I never thought I'd see a bunch of quilters behaving like this. Hi Karlee, sorry you had to come back for such a reason. But I have to disagree with you. I've been on this group on and off for more than 10 years (under another name, for those of you who know that "the black rose" has only been here a few years). It's always been like this. Always. There are periods of relative peace, and God bless you for remembering that more than anything else. I'm ignoring the strife, because my life is so stressful right now that I'm starting to wake up in tears. You don't need any more on your plate either. May God bless and keep your husband safe until he can come home to your loving arms. -- the black rose Research Associate in the Field of Child Development and Human Relations http://community.webshots.com/user/blackrosequilts 2005 BOMs: http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/blackrosequilts/my_photos -------- __o ----- -\. -------- __o --- ( )/ ( ) ---- -\. -------------------- ( )/ ( ) ----------------------------------------- |
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Welcome back, Karlee -- I wish it could have been for longer, though.
Just ignore the griping; we go through this from time to time every couple of years, but it always passes. -- Sandy in Henderson, near Las Vegas my ISP is earthlink.net -- put sfoster1(at) in front http://home.earthlink.net/~sfoster1 AKA Dame Sandy, Minister of Education |
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Being relatively new here, this is my first "snipping" session. It
almost drove me off but I am staying to enjoy the positive and loving part of the group. I can toss the rest out with the trash. God bless you, your dear husband and your family. Wish I could have been part of your hug Karlee. Mary http://community.webshots.com/user/moondancewa IN THE COOKIES OF LIFE, FRIENDS ARE THE CHOCOLATE CHIPS. |
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Karlee,
It has been awhile since we have seen you around. And being one who is in and out, I wonder where and what happened to some of the ones who used to be around. If I can do this gently, I'll do my best. Being in the military does bring on some personal advantages and disadvantages to one's prior life which you have mentioned in your note specifically and indirectly by the way the post was written. This is not the same Karlee I remember reading posts from a couple of years ago. And with that, I am appalled that you would come back with such a hateful post as well as words not becoming of a lady. I question whether you had read several posts from others who were putting it in the past already. Apologies were expressed and from what I am reading, some of the hurt feelings already disappating only to possibly resurface for those involved as well as bringing on feelings for those who don't already know you for the person that you were a couple of years ago. I think it is unfair that you are assuming--at least from my interpretation of the post--that ALL the members of the group are now self centered, me first attitude type of people which couldn't be further from the truth. This group has put together a lot of hug quilts in the past year or two and have come together to make over 100 quilts in a short period of time for those displaced by Hurricane Katrina. So self centered or selfish does not describe those who have given to hug quilts recently or in the past. I can relate to having a spouse or family member overseas and the hardships involved for those in military families. I have lived very near families who have a loved one away, I have taught students who have a mom or dad away from them for long periods of time. I can see in your post that you are angry about a lot of things other than this quilt as that is what I saw with those around me. And like others in the group who have a full plate, it sounds like yours is really overflowing. I could be wrong but I don't think this post was appropriate to have posted from someone who has been inactive with this group's dynamics for the past year or more. Facts are what we need to figure out and search for prior to releasing emotions upon others. That is the only way to finding out what happened and what answers you are looking for instead of making your decisions based on what you are hearing and interpretating from what you are hearing. With that said, our thoughts are with you and your husband as well as your children. Marilyn |
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How well you put this all Marilyn. We are a family, we squabble and make
up or avoid the ones we feel ill towards. You must remember the little ins and outs from when you were a member Karlee. Heck, you were in the middle of a number of them yourself! And still, when push comes to shove we are there for one another, in ways that really count. I cant tell you how many times these kind folks have made my day bearable with their gracious good humor and common sense. I cannot and will not ever think of these people in the same harsh terms you *impute them with. Diana *I had to go look up that word.. its a good one but Im not convinced I used it correctly. Marilyn wrote: Karlee, It has been awhile since we have seen you around. And being one who is in and out, I wonder where and what happened to some of the ones who used to be around. If I can do this gently, I'll do my best. Being in the military does bring on some personal advantages and disadvantages to one's prior life which you have mentioned in your note specifically and indirectly by the way the post was written. This is not the same Karlee I remember reading posts from a couple of years ago. And with that, I am appalled that you would come back with such a hateful post as well as words not becoming of a lady. I question whether you had read several posts from others who were putting it in the past already. Apologies were expressed and from what I am reading, some of the hurt feelings already disappating only to possibly resurface for those involved as well as bringing on feelings for those who don't already know you for the person that you were a couple of years ago. I think it is unfair that you are assuming--at least from my interpretation of the post--that ALL the members of the group are now self centered, me first attitude type of people which couldn't be further from the truth. This group has put together a lot of hug quilts in the past year or two and have come together to make over 100 quilts in a short period of time for those displaced by Hurricane Katrina. So self centered or selfish does not describe those who have given to hug quilts recently or in the past. I can relate to having a spouse or family member overseas and the hardships involved for those in military families. I have lived very near families who have a loved one away, I have taught students who have a mom or dad away from them for long periods of time. I can see in your post that you are angry about a lot of things other than this quilt as that is what I saw with those around me. And like others in the group who have a full plate, it sounds like yours is really overflowing. I could be wrong but I don't think this post was appropriate to have posted from someone who has been inactive with this group's dynamics for the past year or more. Facts are what we need to figure out and search for prior to releasing emotions upon others. That is the only way to finding out what happened and what answers you are looking for instead of making your decisions based on what you are hearing and interpretating from what you are hearing. With that said, our thoughts are with you and your husband as well as your children. Marilyn |
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I had this same thought as well Diana. Family. I love my family, my
husband, kids, mom. But we don't always get along and we don't always see eye to eye. In fact, sometimes it can get down right ugly around here, especially between the kids. Ironically, in my own family dynamic, as well as what I have seen here on this group - I can pick on my brother, but don't YOU dare pick on my little brother. They may tear each other apart at times - but when push comes to shove or when someone who doesn't love them the way they really love each other comes to push - WATCH OUT! And I have seen the same thing here in this group. I don't see eye to eye with every body and every thing on this group - but I can darn well guarantee you that if anyone ever came to push me - I'd want (and most likely have) everyone on this group behind me to back me up! We all get our feelings hurt or get mad sometimes about things that (later on down the road) we can look back at and think, "Well, that really wasn't THAT big of a deal." And be remorseful about it, talk and hug and work things out and go on with life. It's true in my own family, it's true at school, at work and it certainly is true here in this group I believe. It may sound childish, but it always helps to remember what we taught, or tried to teach our children. Before you respond or act - step back, take a few deep breaths and ask yourself, "Is it really necessary?" Would you be better served by keeping your mouth shut, walking away, cooling off, considering the source or just letting it go? I think we've all been there, done that - at one or more points in our lives. Hugs, Tina |
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*ascribe maybe?
Diana Curtis wrote: . . . terms you *impute them with. Diana *I had to go look up that word.. its a good one but Im not convinced I used it correctly. |
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Welp, I understand, but - - you're a little late on the scene. This is all
settled already. Karen, Queen of Squishies |
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