OT!! Signed, sealed and nearly delivered.

Thanks to my friends here who sent me supportive messages regarding my
MIL and Assisted Living. As planned we broached the subject to her after
dinner on Sunday. We gave her all our research material, and brochures,
and pointed out that only one facility would let her keep her cat, AND
permit her an electric wheelchair. She was interested, and went off to
her room for the rest of the day. Next morning, she told DH that there
was no way she could afford more than three weeks (?) and she wouldn't
go. I came home from the dentist to a sad state of affairs.

I talked her into going to see the place we thought she would like, and
she agreed to go. We called the marketing person ( don't know why they
call her that, as they rarely have vacancies) and off we went. Well, she
enjoyed the tour, and everyone was bending over backwards to help. I
think she was still saying "No" when she noticed that the resident
across the hallway was male, and he waved to her. We had a discussion
regarding money, and said that we would help her out as much as we
could, and that I had checked, and she could cash in a CD with no penalty.

Next day, she asked us to call the place, and say she will be going. We
went today, with oodles of paperwork; Jim has started checking with VA
to see if she is eligible for widow's benefits from her late husband. We
know he was in the Navy, well before they met, but do not know if the
time period was wartime. IF all that works out, it would cover 1/3 of
her monthly bill. Incidentally, she was dressed to the nines, painted
eyebrows and all, and asked how many men were there!! 88 and still
wanting to be noticed!LOL

So, friends, May 2 will be the beginning of the "rest of our life".

She has been so nice and quiescent the last few days, it has been
putting quite a guilt trip on me! Then I remember all the times she has
shut herself away from us, called us liars, we hated her etc., and
remembered that her eldest grandson commented "Grammy can put a guilt
trip on you more than anyone I know", and feel we are doing the right thing.

Thanks all of you for being there for me. Rather than write to everyone
with the same info, I thought it would be simpler to post it. Cheryl,
and Elizabeth, we WILL be in NH in October!!!!

Gillian

"Gill Murray" wrote in message
news:wYT9e.26224$jd6.10826@trnddc07...
Thanks to my friends here who sent me supportive messages regarding my
MIL and Assisted Living. As planned we broached the subject to her after
dinner on Sunday. We gave her all our research material, and brochures,
and pointed out that only one facility would let her keep her cat, AND
permit her an electric wheelchair. She was interested, and went off to
her room for the rest of the day. Next morning, she told DH that there
was no way she could afford more than three weeks (?) and she wouldn't
go. I came home from the dentist to a sad state of affairs.

I talked her into going to see the place we thought she would like, and
she agreed to go. We called the marketing person ( don't know why they
call her that, as they rarely have vacancies) and off we went. Well, she
enjoyed the tour, and everyone was bending over backwards to help. I
think she was still saying "No" when she noticed that the resident
across the hallway was male, and he waved to her. We had a discussion
regarding money, and said that we would help her out as much as we
could, and that I had checked, and she could cash in a CD with no penalty.

Next day, she asked us to call the place, and say she will be going. We
went today, with oodles of paperwork; Jim has started checking with VA
to see if she is eligible for widow's benefits from her late husband. We
know he was in the Navy, well before they met, but do not know if the
time period was wartime. IF all that works out, it would cover 1/3 of
her monthly bill. Incidentally, she was dressed to the nines, painted
eyebrows and all, and asked how many men were there!! 88 and still
wanting to be noticed!LOL

So, friends, May 2 will be the beginning of the "rest of our life".

She has been so nice and quiescent the last few days, it has been
putting quite a guilt trip on me! Then I remember all the times she has
shut herself away from us, called us liars, we hated her etc., and
remembered that her eldest grandson commented "Grammy can put a guilt
trip on you more than anyone I know", and feel we are doing the right
thing.

Thanks all of you for being there for me. Rather than write to everyone
with the same info, I thought it would be simpler to post it. Cheryl,
and Elizabeth, we WILL be in NH in October!!!!

Gillian

God Almighty, Gill, she sounds like a female version of my father! I`ll be
keeping my fingers crossed that May 2nd. comes and goes without any
unwarranted dramas. Keep us posted!

Pat P

I'm delighted to hear such good news. I hope she continues to like it and
settles in nicely.

Lucille

"Gill Murray" wrote in message
news:wYT9e.26224$jd6.10826@trnddc07...
Thanks to my friends here who sent me supportive messages regarding my MIL
and Assisted Living. As planned we broached the subject to her after
dinner on Sunday. We gave her all our research material, and brochures,
and pointed out that only one facility would let her keep her cat, AND
permit her an electric wheelchair. She was interested, and went off to her
room for the rest of the day. Next morning, she told DH that there was no
way she could afford more than three weeks (?) and she wouldn't go. I came
home from the dentist to a sad state of affairs.

I talked her into going to see the place we thought she would like, and
she agreed to go. We called the marketing person ( don't know why they
call her that, as they rarely have vacancies) and off we went. Well, she
enjoyed the tour, and everyone was bending over backwards to help. I think
she was still saying "No" when she noticed that the resident across the
hallway was male, and he waved to her. We had a discussion regarding
money, and said that we would help her out as much as we could, and that I
had checked, and she could cash in a CD with no penalty.

Next day, she asked us to call the place, and say she will be going. We
went today, with oodles of paperwork; Jim has started checking with VA to
see if she is eligible for widow's benefits from her late husband. We know
he was in the Navy, well before they met, but do not know if the time
period was wartime. IF all that works out, it would cover 1/3 of her
monthly bill. Incidentally, she was dressed to the nines, painted eyebrows
and all, and asked how many men were there!! 88 and still wanting to be
noticed!LOL

So, friends, May 2 will be the beginning of the "rest of our life".

She has been so nice and quiescent the last few days, it has been putting
quite a guilt trip on me! Then I remember all the times she has shut
herself away from us, called us liars, we hated her etc., and remembered
that her eldest grandson commented "Grammy can put a guilt trip on you
more than anyone I know", and feel we are doing the right thing.

Thanks all of you for being there for me. Rather than write to everyone
with the same info, I thought it would be simpler to post it. Cheryl, and
Elizabeth, we WILL be in NH in October!!!!

Gillian

Hurrah!

C

On 4/21/05 4:22 PM, in article wYT9e.26224$jd6.10826@trnddc07, "Gill Murray"
wrote:

Thanks to my friends here who sent me supportive messages regarding my
MIL and Assisted Living. As planned we broached the subject to her after
dinner on Sunday. We gave her all our research material, and brochures,
and pointed out that only one facility would let her keep her cat, AND
permit her an electric wheelchair. She was interested, and went off to
her room for the rest of the day. Next morning, she told DH that there
was no way she could afford more than three weeks (?) and she wouldn't
go. I came home from the dentist to a sad state of affairs.

I talked her into going to see the place we thought she would like, and
she agreed to go. We called the marketing person ( don't know why they
call her that, as they rarely have vacancies) and off we went. Well, she
enjoyed the tour, and everyone was bending over backwards to help. I
think she was still saying "No" when she noticed that the resident
across the hallway was male, and he waved to her. We had a discussion
regarding money, and said that we would help her out as much as we
could, and that I had checked, and she could cash in a CD with no penalty.

Next day, she asked us to call the place, and say she will be going. We
went today, with oodles of paperwork; Jim has started checking with VA
to see if she is eligible for widow's benefits from her late husband. We
know he was in the Navy, well before they met, but do not know if the
time period was wartime. IF all that works out, it would cover 1/3 of
her monthly bill. Incidentally, she was dressed to the nines, painted
eyebrows and all, and asked how many men were there!! 88 and still
wanting to be noticed!LOL

So, friends, May 2 will be the beginning of the "rest of our life".

She has been so nice and quiescent the last few days, it has been
putting quite a guilt trip on me! Then I remember all the times she has
shut herself away from us, called us liars, we hated her etc., and
remembered that her eldest grandson commented "Grammy can put a guilt
trip on you more than anyone I know", and feel we are doing the right thing.

Thanks all of you for being there for me. Rather than write to everyone
with the same info, I thought it would be simpler to post it. Cheryl,
and Elizabeth, we WILL be in NH in October!!!!

Gillian

This is exceedingly good news. I have a couple of friends are at the
contempation stage of having to do the same thing. They are aging
faster than they should, are always tired and get sick more often than
they should because they are so rundown from dealing with all the issues
of caring for and housing an elderly parent (especially when that parent
should have been in an assisted living facility years ago). My hopes
are that everything goes as planned for you Gill and that you can then
start your motorhome living that you have planned.

Anne (in Ellicott City, MD)

Gill Murray wrote:
Thanks to my friends here who sent me supportive messages regarding my
MIL and Assisted Living. As planned we broached the subject to her after
dinner on Sunday. We gave her all our research material, and brochures,
and pointed out that only one facility would let her keep her cat, AND
permit her an electric wheelchair. She was interested, and went off to
her room for the rest of the day. Next morning, she told DH that there
was no way she could afford more than three weeks (?) and she wouldn't
go. I came home from the dentist to a sad state of affairs.

I talked her into going to see the place we thought she would like, and
she agreed to go. We called the marketing person ( don't know why they
call her that, as they rarely have vacancies) and off we went. Well, she
enjoyed the tour, and everyone was bending over backwards to help. I
think she was still saying "No" when she noticed that the resident
across the hallway was male, and he waved to her. We had a discussion
regarding money, and said that we would help her out as much as we
could, and that I had checked, and she could cash in a CD with no penalty.

Next day, she asked us to call the place, and say she will be going. We
went today, with oodles of paperwork; Jim has started checking with VA
to see if she is eligible for widow's benefits from her late husband. We
know he was in the Navy, well before they met, but do not know if the
time period was wartime. IF all that works out, it would cover 1/3 of
her monthly bill. Incidentally, she was dressed to the nines, painted
eyebrows and all, and asked how many men were there!! 88 and still
wanting to be noticed!LOL

So, friends, May 2 will be the beginning of the "rest of our life".

She has been so nice and quiescent the last few days, it has been
putting quite a guilt trip on me! Then I remember all the times she has
shut herself away from us, called us liars, we hated her etc., and
remembered that her eldest grandson commented "Grammy can put a guilt
trip on you more than anyone I know", and feel we are doing the right
thing.

Thanks all of you for being there for me. Rather than write to everyone
with the same info, I thought it would be simpler to post it. Cheryl,
and Elizabeth, we WILL be in NH in October!!!!

Gillian

I hope that things work out well for both you, Jim and your MIL, Gillian.
This change of scenery might be just what she needed! Also it's time for you
and Jim to have the freedom to come and go as you like. Wishing good times
ahead for all of you!

Mavia

Gill Murray wrote:
So, friends, May 2 will be the beginning of the "rest of our life".
Thanks all of you for being there for me. Rather than write to everyone
with the same info, I thought it would be simpler to post it. Cheryl, and
Elizabeth, we WILL be in NH in October!!!!

Gillian

Passing the Cyber-Champagne, Gillian!

Karen C - California wrote:
Passing the Cyber-Champagne, Gillian!
Thanks, gang!! It IS exciting, and we are looking forward to getting
Dottie comfortably settled, then we can travel with a clear conscience.
We are getting quite high with the lifting of the "big black cloud", and
don't need the champagne!!

Gillian