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In article , Shelly
writes YES, it can. If you have a colostomy, you should have the items necessary for clean up with you and take them into any size stall. I know the procedure well. This is a task I perform several times daily for others at work. ;o) The same as a woman on her period. She takes the tampon or pad into the stall with her, cleans up and takes care of business with a normal bodily function. Not at all: I could not SEE my colostomy and so I needed the mirror to check it was clean and that the bag was in the right place. How can you assume all colostomies are the same? -- Marie Lewis |
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In article , Shelly
writes I'm a nurse Marie. I know exactly what I am talking about and have a wealth of knowledge on the subject. ;o) Shelly You did not know the position of my stoma. Believe me, I needed the mirror. And, in the UK, "disabled" loos are for the disabled. -- Marie Lewis |
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Charlotte writes Marie Lewis wrote: In article 8lwsb.181238$HS4.1505774@attbi_s01, Charlotte Hippen writes 1- Although I understand the situation, I don't feel comfortable with a man in the ladies room even with a young daughter. May one ask, politely, why? I am not the original Charlotte but I'd be happy to tell you why I would be uncomfortable. I don't share facilities (at the same time) with men. Period. Not in my family and not with strangers. That is why there are two restrooms. We could eliminate this issue entirely if everyone just used a unisex together. We don't. Why? -Charlotte I do not know. They do in many countries. I have used unisex toilets in France and never seen anything I should no see. It is even safer for children. Think about it. We often have men cleaning the toilets. -- Marie Lewis |
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Charlotte writes Marie Lewis wrote: I cannot imagine being embarrassed by this. Often, the cleaners are men. They cannot see inside the stalls, after all. I have never used a facility that was simultaneously being cleaned by a man. Never. I believe it may be against the law here. One can see inside the stalls. This is true of the stalls I've seen in France and the UK too. -Charlotte How many have you seen like that? Where were they? I do not know where you went. Do people peer under doors and over them? How awful. Isn't that against the law? I must admit that the spaces above and below doors in the USA are far too big. Maybe it is because of drug users. It is certainly not against the law in the UK or France to have male cleaners in public toilets, just as there are very often female cleaners in male toilets. Some places only employ one cleaner. How would you get around that? I suppose we are less uptight over here, about bodily functions. Well, I know we are and certainly on the continent they are less prudish even than us. I could use the often employed English phrase "Don't get your knickers in a twist" but you might take it too personally. We call underpants "knickers" here. -- Marie Lewis |
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I'm the original one. There are a couple of reasons I would feel
uncomfortable. We have separate public restrooms for the sexes so finding a man in the ladies room is not what I'm used to, nor has it ever happened to me. If we had unisex bathrooms then I guess I would be used to it and it wouldn't make me feel uncomfortable. Also, although we have stalls for privacy in the bathrooms, you don't have total privacy. From reading a few of the other posts I am under the impression you are not from the US (I maybe wrong). I've never been in a bathroom that didn't have cracks in the stalls. Granted they are often very small and very little can be seen through but this is not always the case. Alot of restrooms, at least around here, have larger cracks allowing the other ladies in the restroom (and a man if present) to see into the stalls. And in some cases the doors to the stalls don't even latch anymore. That's why I don't want a man in the ladies restroom while I'm using the facilities. Charlotte "Charlotte" wrote in message ... Marie Lewis wrote: In article 8lwsb.181238$HS4.1505774@attbi_s01, Charlotte Hippen writes 1- Although I understand the situation, I don't feel comfortable with a man in the ladies room even with a young daughter. May one ask, politely, why? I am not the original Charlotte but I'd be happy to tell you why I would be uncomfortable. I don't share facilities (at the same time) with men. Period. Not in my family and not with strangers. That is why there are two restrooms. We could eliminate this issue entirely if everyone just used a unisex together. We don't. Why? -Charlotte |
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As I said in my other reply one can often easily see into the stalls here.
And I believe the other Charlotte is right about it being against the law. When bathrooms are being cleaned by a person of the opposite sex the restrooms are closed and people are asked to temporarily use other facilities. Charlotte "Charlotte" wrote in message ... Marie Lewis wrote: I cannot imagine being embarrassed by this. Often, the cleaners are men. They cannot see inside the stalls, after all. I have never used a facility that was simultaneously being cleaned by a man. Never. I believe it may be against the law here. One can see inside the stalls. This is true of the stalls I've seen in France and the UK too. -Charlotte |
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Marie Lewis wrote: In article , Charlotte writes I have never used a facility that was simultaneously being cleaned by a man. Never. I believe it may be against the law here. One can see inside the stalls. This is true of the stalls I've seen in France and the UK too. -Charlotte How many have you seen like that? Where were they? I do not know where you went. I lived for seven months in the UK. I have traveled all over the continent (and other continents I might add). I have been to France on holiday on three separate occasions. Would you like me to list all the restrooms I used? You're kidding right? Do people peer under doors and over them? How awful. Isn't that against the law? I should think so. I must admit that the spaces above and below doors in the USA are far too big. Maybe it is because of drug users. The only (dis)accomodation I've seen for drug users in a bathroom is the black-lit bathrooms in Victoria Station. In order to deter drug users by open stalls wouldn't one need to peer into them to ensure the occupant wasn't using drugs? Isn't that against the law? It is certainly not against the law in the UK or France to have male cleaners in public toilets, just as there are very often female cleaners in male toilets. Some places only employ one cleaner. How would you get around that? At my office Ray, the restroom cleaner, calls into the restroom that it is time for it to be cleaned. If I'm in there I call out that I will be leaving shortly. He closes the facility and we all use the one-person, unisex, "family" and handicapped room for the short period when the restroom is closed. That is how we get over it. I suppose we are less uptight over here, about bodily functions. Well, I know we are and certainly on the continent they are less prudish even than us. Ain't that the truth! A nightclub in the UK is the only place I've been to where there were people having sex on the floor of every one of the stalls. Needless to say I no longer had to "go". I'm from California, we aren't uptight about our bodies but I don't need to have anyone see me do my business. Even you don't want people seeing you clean your stoma. I could use the often employed English phrase "Don't get your knickers in a twist" but you might take it too personally. We call underpants "knickers" here. I might say that to you in the context of your handicap that is, as you say, an issue of privacy, not mobility. You might think about being less uptight about your bodily functions.... -Charlotte |
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The stalls in bathrooms have been the same for many years.
Not due to drug users I can assure you. If you all are so much less uptight 'over there' why would the open space above and below the doors bother you? Marie, you have gotten to the point of absolutely wacky (for lack of a less nice word) We won't see you this side of the pond because I assure you are restrooms are just not suited to your needs. You probably just need to stay near home where things work for you. Taria Marie Lewis wrote: In article , Charlotte writes Marie Lewis wrote: How many have you seen like that? Where were they? I do not know where you went. Do people peer under doors and over them? How awful. Isn't that against the law? I must admit that the spaces above and below doors in the USA are far too big. Maybe it is because of drug users. It is certainly not against the law in the UK or France to have male cleaners in public toilets, just as there are very often female cleaners in male toilets. Some places only employ one cleaner. How would you get around that? I suppose we are less uptight over here, about bodily functions. Well, I know we are and certainly on the continent they are less prudish even than us. I could use the often employed English phrase "Don't get your knickers in a twist" but you might take it too personally. We call underpants "knickers" here. -- Marie Lewis |
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Cynthia wrote:
"nomorespam" wrote in message ... an invisible disability would most likely not require a larger stall..... another example of an invisible disability. A few years ago (I was 19) I was having really bad back problems. I could walk perfetly well with very little pain. I could lay down with very little pain. Bending at the waist was extremely painful and I couldn't sit down without something to hold on to. I still had to go out in public to go to school and work so I used the handicapped accessible stall. People seeing me walk would have assumed I was perfectly healthy and able but I was not. -- Cynthia Remover the growl from the e-mail address to reply I had similar problems after falling down the stairs and jarring all the 'seams' in my pelvis slightly open! I still occasionally get pain in my tailbone, and sciatica because of it. The effects are temporary but recurring - and invisible to the casual observer (i.e. one without Superman's x-ray vision!) -- Kate XXXXXX Lady Catherine, Wardrobe Mistress of the Chocolate Buttons http://www.diceyhome.free-online.co.uk Click on Kate's Pages and explore! |
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One thing I would like to add:
Marie, I know you said that you are now in a chair, that the privacy issue came up in the past. My position is that everyone deserves privacy when the sign on the door indicates it is on offer, whether you, Marie, think she should have it or not. If the sign indicated "Unisex" and a man walked in I would not be alarmed. If the sign indicated "Women's" I would. It's a simple matter of setting expectations (and the resulting choices we all make). Ta very much, -Charlotte |
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