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OT - MIL stories
The rant about the MIL from he** started me down memory lane because mine was a
piece of work too. For quite some time, we supplemented her small income and she used some of the money to buy us cheap clothes and junk for which we were supposed to be eternally grateful. She insisted on bi-weekly overnight visits even though it would've been as easy for us to come for the day. She pitched a major hissy fit when we told her that we would name our baby after her late husband in Hebrew but would only use the first letter of his name in English. The rabbi who married us made a house call to try to explain that was 'kosher' in Jewish 'law.' He was only partially sucessful sigh When my husband took a job in Tennessee, she pitched an even bigger fit ... said there was no reason for her to live since her only child was going to be so far away and all her family was either dead or not speaking to her. So we 'invited' her to come with us and found a 'ranch' house with an unfinished basement and had a bedroom and full bath installed. She had nothing good to say about the accomodations and was very vocal about the placement of her crappy furniture which she insisted we bring with us throughout the new home. She never gave us a moment's privacy. I became her chaffeur to numerous doctor's appointments. Within a year, we moved her to a senior citizens complex which, naturally, she disliked. Not long after, my husband also moved out. Your turn -- another Anne, add ingers to frugalf to reply |
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In article . com, anne
writes: with an unfinished basement and had a bedroom and full bath installed. She had nothing good to say about the accomodations Oh, the horror, you made her live in the basement instead of giving her the main floor and taking the basement yourselves. What ungrateful children you are to make the poor old lady with her arthritis live in the cold damp basement. I still maintain that the only good MIL is a dead MIL........ -- Finished 11/17/04 - Pets are People Too WIP: Fireman's Prayer (#2), Amid Amish Life, Angel of Autumn, Calif Sampler, Holiday Snowglobe Paralegal - Writer - Editor - Researcher http://hometown.aol.com/kmc528/KMC.html |
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You gals really have me excited about becoming a MIL someday :P The advice I got from a woman I've known for many years is: "Linda, the best advice I can give to you is when you go to visit your son, his wife, and kids, take presents and keep your mouth shut!" Pretty good advice eh? take care, Linda P.S. This lady is the Mother to 4 grown boys, and I've got 2 boys ages 20 and 23. My Mom always told me she was willing to take advice from anyone with more kids than she (grin). On 27 Nov 2004 17:17:07 GMT, S (Karen C - California) wrote: Oh, the horror, you made her live in the basement instead of giving her the main floor and taking the basement yourselves. What ungrateful children you are to make the poor old lady with her arthritis live in the cold damp basement. I still maintain that the only good MIL is a dead MIL........ In article . com, anne writes: with an unfinished basement and had a bedroom and full bath installed. She had nothing good to say about the accomodations |
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"Karen C - California" wrote in message ... In article . com, anne writes: with an unfinished basement and had a bedroom and full bath installed. She had nothing good to say about the accomodations Oh, the horror, you made her live in the basement instead of giving her the main floor and taking the basement yourselves. What ungrateful children you are to make the poor old lady with her arthritis live in the cold damp basement. I still maintain that the only good MIL is a dead MIL........ Karen, I hope that the statement above also went along with the *smiley* or you would be wishing a sad fate on a lot of your friends! I certainly don't agree with it as I had a wonderful MIL who unfortunately was taken from us all too soon. Somehow I think there are as many *good* MILs as *evil* ones! The problem is we only hear the horror stories of the later. Tia Mary is an example of the former. Mavia...MIL to two |
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"Karen C - California" wrote in message ... In article . com, anne writes: with an unfinished basement and had a bedroom and full bath installed. She had nothing good to say about the accomodations Oh, the horror, you made her live in the basement instead of giving her the main floor and taking the basement yourselves. What ungrateful children you are to make the poor old lady with her arthritis live in the cold damp basement. I still maintain that the only good MIL is a dead MIL........ My son in law and I get along great. We share some hobbies and he comes over, on his days off, to visit, with my grandkids. Judy |
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In article Kv3qd.216518$9b.91140@edtnps84, "Mavia Beaulieu"
writes: Karen, I hope that the statement above also went along with the *smiley* or you would be wishing a sad fate on a lot of your friends! Mavia, I can see where you would be a good MIL, but the two I've had weren't worth having. Can I trade for you next time? -- Finished 11/17/04 - Pets are People Too WIP: Fireman's Prayer (#2), Amid Amish Life, Angel of Autumn, Calif Sampler, Holiday Snowglobe Paralegal - Writer - Editor - Researcher http://hometown.aol.com/kmc528/KMC.html |
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I disagree -- I'm a good mother-in-law. In fact, I'm a GREAT mother-in-law.
My very best trait is that I've learned (am learning???) how to keep my mouth shut. -- Jere "Karen C - California" wrote in message ... In article . com, anne writes: with an unfinished basement and had a bedroom and full bath installed. She had nothing good to say about the accomodations Oh, the horror, you made her live in the basement instead of giving her the main floor and taking the basement yourselves. What ungrateful children you are to make the poor old lady with her arthritis live in the cold damp basement. I still maintain that the only good MIL is a dead MIL........ -- Finished 11/17/04 - Pets are People Too WIP: Fireman's Prayer (#2), Amid Amish Life, Angel of Autumn, Calif Sampler, Holiday Snowglobe Paralegal - Writer - Editor - Researcher http://hometown.aol.com/kmc528/KMC.html |
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On Sat, 27 Nov 2004 20:24:46 GMT, "Jere Williams"
wrote: I disagree -- I'm a good mother-in-law. In fact, I'm a GREAT mother-in-law. My very best trait is that I've learned (am learning???) how to keep my mouth shut. So maybe the quote should be "the only good mother in law is a quiet monher in law"? g I didn't get along with mine either. Very controlling of her three sons and thought she could get away with the same once I came along, tried to use my children as leverage to get what she wanted. I drew the line when she tried to convince me to sign over legal custody of my children to her so she could get them baptized in "her" church. Now her son and I live apart and I have absolutely no contact of any kind with her, a fact for which I am heartily glad. I feel sorry for the children of the oldest son, though, because Martha doesn't stand up to MIL and those kids get dragged all over the place to satisfy the woman's desires. Jenn L. -- http://community.webshots.com/user/jaliace Current projects: Christmas Carnations (Threads Through Time) Nordic Needle Rose (Silver Lining) Starry Night (Vincent van Gogh via Cross Stitch Collectibles) Lady of the Flag (Mirabilia) |
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No, I don't think a mother-in-law has to be quiet, but she surely does have
to keep meddling to a minimum. I had no model -- my husband's mom died 6 months before we married. But signing over legal custody -- that's WAAAY over the top. I'm glad you stood up to her. -- Jere "Jenn Liace" wrote in message ... On Sat, 27 Nov 2004 20:24:46 GMT, "Jere Williams" wrote: I disagree -- I'm a good mother-in-law. In fact, I'm a GREAT mother-in-law. My very best trait is that I've learned (am learning???) how to keep my mouth shut. So maybe the quote should be "the only good mother in law is a quiet monher in law"? g I didn't get along with mine either. Very controlling of her three sons and thought she could get away with the same once I came along, tried to use my children as leverage to get what she wanted. I drew the line when she tried to convince me to sign over legal custody of my children to her so she could get them baptized in "her" church. Now her son and I live apart and I have absolutely no contact of any kind with her, a fact for which I am heartily glad. I feel sorry for the children of the oldest son, though, because Martha doesn't stand up to MIL and those kids get dragged all over the place to satisfy the woman's desires. Jenn L. -- http://community.webshots.com/user/jaliace Current projects: Christmas Carnations (Threads Through Time) Nordic Needle Rose (Silver Lining) Starry Night (Vincent van Gogh via Cross Stitch Collectibles) Lady of the Flag (Mirabilia) |
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You all make me grateful for my MIL. She is, in many ways, a total
dingbat - and I can tell stories on her! But she doesn't interfere in our lives. And I do love her. Of course, she did have my BIL and DH wondering if you can inherit debt. She decided she wanted to be a horse rescuer, and instead of doing the sensible thing and volunteering at our local, very good one, went into major debt. She built a new barn, sheds with runs, an outdoor arena, and bought a brand new on-the-fly 4x4 dually* and 6-horse trailer, all top of the line. I don't know where or how she got the loans... She was going to finance all this by boarding and training, and breeding. She also bought several expensive brood mares, and two stallions... Anyone who has anything to do with horses will tell you that the way to make a small fortune in horses is to start with a big one. Her sons were afraid that she'd die, and they'd have to pay all those debts. She finally figured it out, and sold it all, except the place. Oh, and she never rescued a single horse. One of her best friends is a bona fide horse trainer; and my now ex-stepfather-in-law is a farmer. Both of them tried to tell her... She divorced Chuck over it. I don't know whether to say she has good taste in men, or bad. She's a good picker, but throws them out on flimsy excuses. I would have married Chuck like a shot, if it wasn't for my own DH; and he (DH) owes much of who he is to her second husband Jerry, and his (DH's) father's second wife. I like to say that I'm blessed with 4 sets of wonderful in-laws. But I don't say it in front of her; it makes her mad. I "might should" say that Chuck was one of the first friends I made when I moved to Colorado; he was still married to his first wife. And I was friends with MIL before I ever met her son. So I know them both better than you might expect! She has a heart as big as all outdoors, and always invites friends with no local family over for holiday feasts. She has never said one word to DH about me being so much older, and my lack of both the ability and the desire to have children. All in all, I love her; and if we all put our MILs in a pile in the middle of the room to pick and choose from, I'd still pick her. *for those unfamiliar with the slang, a dually is one of those pickup trucks with double back wheels; and "4x4 on the fly" means that you can shift from two wheel drive to four wheel drive while moving. Both are very expensive options. (Normally, to shift into 4, one stops the truck, gets out, and does something to all 4 wheels called "locking the hubs." Not a lot of fun in the snow.) Ruthie in Colorado alowan'earthlink'net |
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