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OT - Story: My child hating reputation
I only have one thing to say to this: *grin*
snip I know that most of you think that I love children, but that hasn't always been the case. A little over twenty years ago, I was told I was a child hating B*tch, and I happily agreed with the accusers.snip ~Candace~ your local hemp goddess |
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Kathy N-V wrote:
I can only hope that I soured that lovely family on going to the ballet. Heh, heh, heh.... :-) Arondelle -- ================================================== ========= To email me, empty the pond with a net Shop eBay with me: http://snipurl.com/3usr Visit Arondelle's Dream Worlds at: http://www.arondelle.com Read my Blog: http://www.angelfire.com/blog/arondelle/index.html |
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You know...many times I stick up for parents and play devil's advocate when
you're only seeing a 'snapshot' of their lives. Like at the grocery store when a parent is disciplining for something and it just looks awful because we might not have seen what happened right before or half an hour before or the day before or whatever...it's taken out of context. i'm not talking hitting them or anything like that. i'm talking frustrated parent. But your story sounds like parents being oblivious to other people around them. i HATE that! unfortunately, it's not the childrens' fault and people end up not liking them for being regular kids in a situation that they either shouldn't be, or their parents should be more aware. Another unfortunate thing is that those kids, when they become adults, have the same entitled attitude. Yuck. Now, if their lives go anything like mine do, and they're aware enough to notice it...they'll probably be put in a similar situation and maybe they'll see how it feels and learn from it. I'm guessing if that happens though, that they'll be put out rather than enlightened. I gotta give you credit. I wouldn't have had the guts to do anything about it...well, maybe not in the fashion you did and I'm surprised that the people around you didn't stand up and applaud you. -- Lori Greenberg http://www.beadnerd.com ebay auctions: http://cgi6.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dl...origre enberg "Kathy N-V" wrote in message .com... I know that most of you think that I love children, but that hasn't always been the case. A little over twenty years ago, I was told I was a child hating B*tch, and I happily agreed with the accusers. Years ago, at the Wang Center, we were seeing the Boston Ballet perform "Swan Lake." We were in the "cheap seats," second balcony and all that, but they still weren't inexpensive by any stretch of the imagination. I had bought tickets for a friend's birthday, and we were really looking forward to the show. Just before the show began, we heard a little noise, just enough to make us turn around and look. A family with two small daughters, decked out for the ballet. We thought it was kind of odd, since this wasn't "The Nutcracker," where you expect children, nor was it an afternoon performance. This being pre-Bob (and of course pre-DD), I really didn't think anything of it. Until the plinking started. The parents had provided the children with snacks to keep them quiet during the performance. (I had always subscribed to the notion that any child who needs bribes to behave during a performance is too young to be there - but I digress) Apparently the snack bags had a quantity of M&M candies with peanuts, which if dropped, one by one, make an amazing echoing plinking noise as they drop down the steep steps of the second balcony, just before they fall down on the occupants of the first balcony. I started out politely, asking the parents to control their children. But the parents had suddenly developed some sort of memory problem, and were staring at the children as if they hadn't seen the little darlings before. The little girls giggled, and the moment my back was turned, the plinking resumed. By now, we were hearing grumbling drifting up from the first balcony, where I presume some audience members were treated to the sensation of M&Ms dropping on their heads. An usher tried to discreetly speak to the parents, with exactly zero success. The rest of us in the second balcony got to hear a lecture on how it was entirely appropriate for children to be allowed to enjoy a cultural experience, and how mean spirited the rest of the world was for "hating children." I don't hate children, although there were two kids right there I would have happily strangled, along with their parents. These tickets, a birthday present for my friend, had made a significant dent in my budget. Even my friend was starting to get annoyed, and she teaches seriously emotionally disturbed children all day long - nothing ruffles this woman. Finally, I reached my breaking point. Giving the parents the "wild eyed look of death," I snatched the half empty bags of M&Ms from each child and stuffed them in my purse. The father made a token protest that I was stealing, but he stopped dead when he saw the look on my face and the faces of the other theatregoers around him. Alas, the family fled at intermission. We enjoyed the second half of the show in blissful peace. The only fly in the ointment is that I just know that family probably still recounts how horrible those child hating people were when they were only trying to expose their children to a cultural treasure. And enough time has passed that these children have grown up and (dear god) had children of their own. I can only hope that I soured that lovely family on going to the ballet. Kathy N-V |
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Finally, I reached my breaking point. Giving the parents the "wild eyed look
of death," I snatched the half empty bags of M&Ms from each child and stuffed them in my purse. Gee, what I wouldn't give to see that look! LOL Cheri (Bubbee to Emily and Nathan) |
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I have been told I hate children as well. I don't hate children at all and
dote on my daughters. I don't like unruly children or their parents. I have little patience for the type of thing you describe. I could take my children to the ballet at a very young age and I never had any problems with them. Of course, they were well behaved because that's how they are raised. I don't like to go to a restaurant and have children turning around to stare at you, running all over the place, screaming at the top of their lungs, or saying "mommy" over and over again. Before we are seating anywhere I tell the host/hostess to not sit us anywhere near children. I gave up a long time ago with the loose childrearing going on. I know it sounds awful but that's how I feel. However, I adore my little neighbors and dote on them as well. All the kids around here are well behaved. The boys are rowdy but what would you expect with boys. "Kathy N-V" wrote in message .com... I know that most of you think that I love children, but that hasn't always been the case. A little over twenty years ago, I was told I was a child hating B*tch, and I happily agreed with the accusers. Years ago, at the Wang Center, we were seeing the Boston Ballet perform "Swan Lake." We were in the "cheap seats," second balcony and all that, but they still weren't inexpensive by any stretch of the imagination. I had bought tickets for a friend's birthday, and we were really looking forward to the show. Just before the show began, we heard a little noise, just enough to make us turn around and look. A family with two small daughters, decked out for the ballet. We thought it was kind of odd, since this wasn't "The Nutcracker," where you expect children, nor was it an afternoon performance. This being pre-Bob (and of course pre-DD), I really didn't think anything of it. Until the plinking started. The parents had provided the children with snacks to keep them quiet during the performance. (I had always subscribed to the notion that any child who needs bribes to behave during a performance is too young to be there - but I digress) Apparently the snack bags had a quantity of M&M candies with peanuts, which if dropped, one by one, make an amazing echoing plinking noise as they drop down the steep steps of the second balcony, just before they fall down on the occupants of the first balcony. I started out politely, asking the parents to control their children. But the parents had suddenly developed some sort of memory problem, and were staring at the children as if they hadn't seen the little darlings before. The little girls giggled, and the moment my back was turned, the plinking resumed. By now, we were hearing grumbling drifting up from the first balcony, where I presume some audience members were treated to the sensation of M&Ms dropping on their heads. An usher tried to discreetly speak to the parents, with exactly zero success. The rest of us in the second balcony got to hear a lecture on how it was entirely appropriate for children to be allowed to enjoy a cultural experience, and how mean spirited the rest of the world was for "hating children." I don't hate children, although there were two kids right there I would have happily strangled, along with their parents. These tickets, a birthday present for my friend, had made a significant dent in my budget. Even my friend was starting to get annoyed, and she teaches seriously emotionally disturbed children all day long - nothing ruffles this woman. Finally, I reached my breaking point. Giving the parents the "wild eyed look of death," I snatched the half empty bags of M&Ms from each child and stuffed them in my purse. The father made a token protest that I was stealing, but he stopped dead when he saw the look on my face and the faces of the other theatregoers around him. Alas, the family fled at intermission. We enjoyed the second half of the show in blissful peace. The only fly in the ointment is that I just know that family probably still recounts how horrible those child hating people were when they were only trying to expose their children to a cultural treasure. And enough time has passed that these children have grown up and (dear god) had children of their own. I can only hope that I soured that lovely family on going to the ballet. Kathy N-V |
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One of the things I really despise about our current culture is that we
have completely discarded the notion that there is ANY venue which is inappropriate for children. What do these kids have to look forward to as they grow up? Celine -- I thought the same thing the other day. There were all kinds of places I couldn't go to growing up because I wasn't old enough. There are children everywhere now. A grown up can only count on a child free date if they stay home and if their children are somewhere else. Thankfully most children don't like opera and most parents don't take them. I feel safe there. |
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I'm boggling.
What do people think is selfish about not having children? I always thought it was the opposite! I considered it a very selfish decision to have kids... I mean, I didn't have them to bestow upon a poor hapess soul the precious gift of life (guffaw) but because *I wanted to have kids.* I. Me. Hello, me? I certainly wasn't thinking about how fulfilled they would be when I cuddled and nursed them, or how cute they would think I was. Do people really think not having kids is selfish? What on earth are they thinking of? Selfish *how*? This makes me do the big "whatever!" My eyes are wide. I just plain don't get it. As for the ballet, some people are FREAKING CLUELESS. That's the whole "sense of entitlement" problem rearing its ugly head again. Kids acting up? LEAVE! Better yet, have the common sense not to take them in the first place. Kathy, good for you. I hope it made them reconsider taking their kids to formal grown-up venues. What torment for the kids, besides! -Kalera http://www.beadwife.com http://www.snipurl.com/kebay Lee S. Billings wrote: Ditto. And they call ME "selfish" for not wanting to have kids?!! One of the things I really despise about our current culture is that we have completely discarded the notion that there is ANY venue which is inappropriate for children. What do these kids have to look forward to as they grow up? Celine |
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I think people have been of the opinion that I hate children, but I don't. I
just don't think they should be the centre of attention all the time. It's not good for them. What I hate is how when I go to a party where there are parents, they talk about their children 90% of the time. And I sit there with a smile plastered on my face thinking "I'm borrrred." If I matched them story for story with my cats they'd think I was nuts. And all the children tear around the common area around my house and I love it. The cats stay in the yard that way. Selfish for not having children? I dunno. I get to spend more time doing what pleases me and I think that is what really bugs the people who say things like that. Dora Kalera Stratton I'm boggling. What do people think is selfish about not having children? I always thought it was the opposite! I considered it a very selfish decision to have kids... I mean, I didn't have them to bestow upon a poor hapess soul the precious gift of life (guffaw) but because *I wanted to have kids.* I. Me. Hello, me? I certainly wasn't thinking about how fulfilled they would be when I cuddled and nursed them, or how cute they would think I was. Do people really think not having kids is selfish? What on earth are they thinking of? Selfish *how*? This makes me do the big "whatever!" My eyes are wide. I just plain don't get it. As for the ballet, some people are FREAKING CLUELESS. That's the whole "sense of entitlement" problem rearing its ugly head again. Kids acting up? LEAVE! Better yet, have the common sense not to take them in the first place. Kathy, good for you. I hope it made them reconsider taking their kids to formal grown-up venues. What torment for the kids, besides! -Kalera http://www.beadwife.com http://www.snipurl.com/kebay Lee S. Billings wrote: Ditto. And they call ME "selfish" for not wanting to have kids?!! One of the things I really despise about our current culture is that we have completely discarded the notion that there is ANY venue which is inappropriate for children. What do these kids have to look forward to as they grow up? Celine |
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