OT update on this week's crisis

You should move to East Anglia like we did - the sun has only gone in
for a quick 5 minite rain shower in over a month! The grass is brown and
the soil just like dust. Even the periwinkles are shrivelling, and they
usually seem unaffected by anything.

Sally at the Seaside~~~~~~~~~~~~~uk
http://www.flickr.com/photos/sallyattheseaside/





Hugs from over here in the UK - where the sun has finally come out for
several days in a row!

And I missed it!

Lizzy

Anne Rogers wrote:

Perhaps you should just come right out and ask your husband and
friends if they are blaming you for your illness. It would open the
lines of communication, and point out to them that their behavior is
coming across to you in this way. While I know it's hard to believe,
they may be clueless.
I'm not ready to ask that,

I can certainly understand that.

but in someways, from the friend, though not
my husband, I think I know the answer, I think she does feel that I do
in someway bring it on myself, one of her explainations for this is that
I chose to use midwives not a doctor, even though I eventually needed a
c-section.

There are plenty of cases of depression when the baby is delivered by a
regular doctor. I'm not sure where you're located Anne, but I'd hazard
a guess that 99% of babies are delivered by doctors in the US, and yet
depression still occurs. So who delivers the baby has nothing to do
with it. The little I've read indicates the depression is hormonal and
neurochemical. No one can control that.


I'm a little bit baffled why this bout of post-partum depression is
such a mystery to them when you suffered it with your first baby. Did
anyone honestly believe that somehow the second baby would be
different? I'll admit my knowledge on the subject is limited, but it
has been my impression that if a woman suffers from post-partum
depression once, it's highly likely it will occur with the next baby.

Actually this is my 3rd baby and miraculously I didn't have PPD after my
2nd.

Ahh, I've learned something.


This time the depression started in pregnancy, but I suppose it's
possible that I'm getting another attack that is masked somewhat by the
meds I'm already on.

With your first baby how long did it take before the symptoms abated?

It was after Christmas that things started to look up (this baby was
born 4 days before my son's birthday, so time of year is the same), it
was also worse in the fall. Seems silly, but both my son and this baby
have had a really hard time gaining weight, when my middle child had no
problems, I wonder how much that contributes to me feeling a lack of
confidence as a mother.

Well of course you're concerned Anne. Any mother would be. However, I
suspect that your mental state has as much to do with your feelings of
under confidence as anything.

((((((((Hugs))))))))))
Michelle in Nevada


Cheers
Anne