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Hi Cher,

I've read all the comments and yes lady you are doing the right thing. A friend
of mine had to make the choice with her brother after her parents had passed
away. Know what, he went to a school and loved it, hated to come home on
holidays and couldn't wait to go back to be with his friends and new family.

Hugs,

Nora

Well thanks for this, hopefully it will be time for me, if he gets the
chance to go there.

After all I've said about Edward, you'd all find him to be a likeable chap,
speech isn't too much of a problem, and he is a good looking young lad as
well (like his mom of course...lol) but he is so very very lovely, a great
sense of humour, and an easy going personality most of the time.
Cheers.....cher
"Ophelia" wrote in message
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"Cher" wrote in message
...
Hi Ophelia, thanks, GP has this morning sent the form off that was
needed,
so that is a good thing...

Keeping everything crossed


No I won't be there forever, when one of my younger daughters last year
heard I was going to get him a term of at least 3yrs residency at a
training
college for special needs, her remarks were..."Oh surely you aren't
going
to
put him away!" lol, and my reply was, "No, I'm giving him the
opportunity to be independant, if something happens to me Michelle, are
YOU
gonna take him on?" Her reply to this was, a shrug and not really, I
think
the message drove home...{g).

EXACTLY!! It is amazing how many people criticize, until you offer them
the
change to put their money where their mouth is

GOOD FOR YOU GIRL!!!!!

I am not his playmate although at the moment I am his best friend, I
want
this altered, I want him to feel that he would rather be away than home
with
me... awful though that sounds,

No it does NOT sound awful. It is sensible and you are encouraging thim
to
have a wider circle of friends and support and to become as independant as
he can be.

it will one day be for the best for him. I
am fifty three, and totally exhausted mentally, I need to re-couperate
too!
No good burning the batteries out completely, and being an invalid for
him
to look after...oh heaven forbid....but you all know what I mean, I
ain't
getting any younger.

I don't know why some people think it is a cruel thing to do. How much
more cruel is it to have him depend on you totally until you are no longer
able to do so. He would be fearfully be floundering around in a world he
neither knows nor trusts.

He is a big heavy lad, he sits on my bed after his shower in the
morning,
I
dress him, not that he can't do it himself, but it is easier for me to
do
it, and one leg of his is really heavy, as he shoves it over my lap to
put
on his socks.

Hard physical work.

So it is this sort of thing, and sometimes some frustrated
tantrums, he shouts, and bangs, his speech is good, but oh he does get
mad
at things sometimes, these episodes are few and far between, and short
lived, but oh so waring when they erupt...

I believe you!!! You need to take good care of yourself now to have a
contented (knowing he getting the very best he needs) and peaceful life.
Time for you now love..and not before time too.

O





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this will be the best thing for me, if this happens, I want him to be a
friend now, more than a son, of course he'll always be my son, but this has
got to move on..

Cheers.....Cher
"NoraBalcer" wrote in message
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Hi Cher,

I've read all the comments and yes lady you are doing the right thing. A
friend
of mine had to make the choice with her brother after her parents had
passed
away. Know what, he went to a school and loved it, hated to come home on
holidays and couldn't wait to go back to be with his friends and new
family.

Hugs,

Nora


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Oh Cher.
My fingers & toes are crossed for him & you both:)

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Hope it works for the both of you Cher....Stella
"Cher" wrote in message
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Well thanks for this, hopefully it will be time for me, if he gets the
chance to go there.

After all I've said about Edward, you'd all find him to be a likeable
chap,
speech isn't too much of a problem, and he is a good looking young lad as
well (like his mom of course...lol) but he is so very very lovely, a
great
sense of humour, and an easy going personality most of the time.
Cheers.....cher
"Ophelia" wrote in message
...

"Cher" wrote in message
...
Hi Ophelia, thanks, GP has this morning sent the form off that was
needed,
so that is a good thing...

Keeping everything crossed


No I won't be there forever, when one of my younger daughters last
year
heard I was going to get him a term of at least 3yrs residency at a
training
college for special needs, her remarks were..."Oh surely you aren't
going
to
put him away!" lol, and my reply was, "No, I'm giving him the
opportunity to be independant, if something happens to me Michelle,
are
YOU
gonna take him on?" Her reply to this was, a shrug and not really, I
think
the message drove home...{g).

EXACTLY!! It is amazing how many people criticize, until you offer them
the
change to put their money where their mouth is

GOOD FOR YOU GIRL!!!!!

I am not his playmate although at the moment I am his best friend, I
want
this altered, I want him to feel that he would rather be away than
home
with
me... awful though that sounds,

No it does NOT sound awful. It is sensible and you are encouraging thim
to
have a wider circle of friends and support and to become as independant
as
he can be.

it will one day be for the best for him. I
am fifty three, and totally exhausted mentally, I need to
re-couperate
too!
No good burning the batteries out completely, and being an invalid for
him
to look after...oh heaven forbid....but you all know what I mean, I
ain't
getting any younger.

I don't know why some people think it is a cruel thing to do. How much
more cruel is it to have him depend on you totally until you are no
longer
able to do so. He would be fearfully be floundering around in a world
he
neither knows nor trusts.

He is a big heavy lad, he sits on my bed after his shower in the
morning,
I
dress him, not that he can't do it himself, but it is easier for me
to
do
it, and one leg of his is really heavy, as he shoves it over my lap to
put
on his socks.

Hard physical work.

So it is this sort of thing, and sometimes some frustrated
tantrums, he shouts, and bangs, his speech is good, but oh he does
get
mad
at things sometimes, these episodes are few and far between, and
short
lived, but oh so waring when they erupt...

I believe you!!! You need to take good care of yourself now to have a
contented (knowing he getting the very best he needs) and peaceful life.
Time for you now love..and not before time too.

O





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"Trish" wrote in message
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Oh Cher.
My fingers & toes are crossed for him & you both:)

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Trish, you forgot to cross your EYES too! *I* did, grin!
And now Cher's afraid of a project exchange from me, giggle!
Now I have to fill in the blanks here... I CANNOT cross my eyes, never
could, I have severe ambliopia/lazyeye/ AKA walleye.
LOL,
Noreen



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Cheers................Cher
"Stella Fenley" wrote in message
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Hope it works for the both of you Cher....Stella
"Cher" wrote in message
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Well thanks for this, hopefully it will be time for me, if he gets the
chance to go there.

After all I've said about Edward, you'd all find him to be a likeable
chap,
speech isn't too much of a problem, and he is a good looking young lad
as
well (like his mom of course...lol) but he is so very very lovely, a
great
sense of humour, and an easy going personality most of the time.
Cheers.....cher
"Ophelia" wrote in message
...

"Cher" wrote in message
...
Hi Ophelia, thanks, GP has this morning sent the form off that was
needed,
so that is a good thing...

Keeping everything crossed


No I won't be there forever, when one of my younger daughters last
year
heard I was going to get him a term of at least 3yrs residency at a
training
college for special needs, her remarks were..."Oh surely you aren't
going
to
put him away!" lol, and my reply was, "No, I'm giving him the
opportunity to be independant, if something happens to me Michelle,
are
YOU
gonna take him on?" Her reply to this was, a shrug and not really,
I
think
the message drove home...{g).

EXACTLY!! It is amazing how many people criticize, until you offer
them
the
change to put their money where their mouth is

GOOD FOR YOU GIRL!!!!!

I am not his playmate although at the moment I am his best friend,
I
want
this altered, I want him to feel that he would rather be away than
home
with
me... awful though that sounds,

No it does NOT sound awful. It is sensible and you are encouraging
thim
to
have a wider circle of friends and support and to become as
independant
as
he can be.

it will one day be for the best for him. I
am fifty three, and totally exhausted mentally, I need to
re-couperate
too!
No good burning the batteries out completely, and being an invalid
for
him
to look after...oh heaven forbid....but you all know what I mean, I
ain't
getting any younger.

I don't know why some people think it is a cruel thing to do. How
much
more cruel is it to have him depend on you totally until you are no
longer
able to do so. He would be fearfully be floundering around in a
world
he
neither knows nor trusts.

He is a big heavy lad, he sits on my bed after his shower in the
morning,
I
dress him, not that he can't do it himself, but it is easier for me
to
do
it, and one leg of his is really heavy, as he shoves it over my lap
to
put
on his socks.

Hard physical work.

So it is this sort of thing, and sometimes some frustrated
tantrums, he shouts, and bangs, his speech is good, but oh he does
get
mad
at things sometimes, these episodes are few and far between, and
short
lived, but oh so waring when they erupt...

I believe you!!! You need to take good care of yourself now to have a
contented (knowing he getting the very best he needs) and peaceful
life.
Time for you now love..and not before time too.

O





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thanks Trish.......Cheers.....Cher

"Trish" wrote in message
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Oh Cher.
My fingers & toes are crossed for him & you both:)

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Oh do have a go Noreen and get someone to take a pic, and post it ....what a
giggle.....Cher
"Noreen's Knit*che" wrote in message
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"Trish" wrote in message
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Oh Cher.
My fingers & toes are crossed for him & you both:)

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http://www.geocities.com/marshalldouglas2001/



Trish, you forgot to cross your EYES too! *I* did, grin!
And now Cher's afraid of a project exchange from me, giggle!
Now I have to fill in the blanks here... I CANNOT cross my eyes, never
could, I have severe ambliopia/lazyeye/ AKA walleye.
LOL,
Noreen



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I had this feeling that you were a little bit of a shy person, don't know
what gave me that impression, but there you are. Funny thing is, when I was
young I was terribly shy, but even though I get a bit self concious too,
you'd not believe it, when you see me working, and I'm as mad as a hatter,
up on tables, out the mens loo's...lol Wearing absolutely mental clothes,
walking up a bar, and just making a general idiot of myself, and my duo
partner is worse..(vbg).

So I think we all have these traits, but hide it best we can.

cheers......Cher
"Noreen's Knit*che" wrote in message
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"Cher" wrote in message
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Oh do have a go Noreen and get someone to take a pic, and post it
....what a
giggle.....Cher

LOL, Cher!
Y'know? Actually people tell me they don't notice till I point it out
(I'm
VERY self-conscious)... OR they notice right away and will ask someone
else... IE: one of my nieces asking What's wrong with Aunt Noreen's
eye?...
to one of her cousins, rather than asking ME!
LOL
Hugs,
Noreen



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