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What do you consider good behavior at 3 and 6 weeks of age?

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"Kate Dicey" wrote in message
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Batik Freak wrote:

Amen. I hate going in a restaurant or store and having inconsiderate
parents with their bratty children running around. Keep them at home
until you can control them, and then DO control them in public. Children
are like puppies, they have to be trained. Part of that training is
correction.


Indeed - but another way is just to take them out even before they can sit
up, and start by 'expecting' good behavior from 3 weeks old. From six to
eight months old, James knew what to expect when we were out: if he got
bored, he just went to sleep! Mind you, we tended to feed him first and
then give him The Plug (dummy/comforter) when he was full, and some toys
to play with. Half the time other diners didn't realize we had him with
us. By the time he was three, we were collecting complements on how
angelic his behavior was at almost every pub and restaurant we stopped at.
And if he DID throw a boiled goblin fit, we just took him out immediately.
Misbehavior was quashed rapidly, just as my parents did with us. If you
are a parent, you have a duty and a responsibility to civilize your
offspring. There are some kids who have built in problems with this
(autism and other specific physical and learning difficulties spring to
mind, but the right allowances can be made for those), but for
problem-free kids who are just allowed to brat out there is no excuse, and
no reason other than ignorance or lack of care from the parent.

I now have a kid who prefers pubs and real restaurants to MacDeadburgers!

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I disagree that there are different sets of manners for home -start as you
mean to go on! One's family deserves polite and respectful behavior just as
much as strangers in a restaurant. And children who are polite at home feel
no stress when out in public.
Roberta in D

"Tia Mary" schrieb im Newsbeitrag
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Batik Freak wrote:

........ Children are like
puppies, they have to be trained. Part of that training is correction.


Before DD had "R", the SMDGD, she thought I was being horrid when I
told her this! She has since changed her attitude -- LOL! There is
absolutely noting wrong in teaching children that there are different
behaviours required for different social situations! There is one set of
manners for home, another more stringent set for restaurants, another even
more stringent set for church, etc.
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no, sandy, like you say she wasn't doing that. she just talks a lot and
is loud. like her mommy... but I've learnt to behave in public though..
mostly... )

Sandy Ellison wrote:
Howdy!

The term I used was "out of control"
which fits the parents about as well as the kids. g
Loud? Sure, I expect loud from kids.
But in a public place, "out of control" is when they're hopping and bopping
all over the place, in your ear, screaming at the back of your head,
running around like crazy -- out of control.

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ok, that would be annoying. but my laptop is pretty inobtrusive...

Jack Campin - bogus address wrote:


I once had the misfortune to share a library reading room with somebody
who was using some kind of crummy Windows machine that went bleep every
time she hit a key. I was trying to read musical scores. Can you imagine
how hard it is to hear music in your head with that in the background?
(She didn't know how to turn it off, either).
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btw, she was very good until two months ago when she turned two...

Sandy Foster wrote:

Amen. We started taking our two DDs to restaurants when they were babies ....

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When I am in a resturant of any kind and I see children who are well behave
I try to say something nice to the children.
Barbara in SC and now FL

Oh MOST EXCELLENT!!! Yes! DGD will definitely remember that whole
episode - how could she not?

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"Tia Mary" wrote in message
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Batik Freak wrote:

........ Children are like
puppies, they have to be trained. Part of that training is correction.


Before DD had "R", the SMDGD, she thought I was being horrid when I
told her this! She has since changed her attitude -- LOL! There is
absolutely noting wrong in teaching children that there are different
behaviours required for different social situations! There is one set of
manners for home, another more stringent set for restaurants, another even
more stringent set for church, etc.
Last year when was in Lizard Land, I took "R" (who was 2) out to lunch
with me to meet my friend Tammy at The Cheesecake Factory. "R" was very
good at first, as was to be expected. Then she got a bit cranky and she
got her first warning. The second warning came when she got a bit "smart"
mouthed with The GrandMother (me). The third and final warning (she's
allowed three and ONLY three and she knows it) came when she started
pulling the cheese off her fourth piece of pizza and threw it on the
table. At that point, I told Tammy I would be right back and I literally
yanked "R" out her booster seat, stuck her under my arm like the squirming
animal she was, made my way to the ladies room, sat her on the changing
table and gave her what for! I asked her if she wanted a smack and she
said no. I asked her if she *deserved* a smack and she and yes! Then I
told her I was VERY embarrassed by her behaviour in a public place and was
ashamed to have people know that such a poorly behaved little girl was MY
DGD. She apologized and said she would be a "good girl" and gave me a
hug. When I told her she would have to apologize to "Tia Tammy" (my
friend), well, *that's* when she began to cry -- LOL. She knew she had
been very naughty! When I carried her back to the table I asked her if
she had something to say to Tia Tammy. "R" hung her head and in a very
tiny voice said "Sorry". THAT was not a proper apology so I told "R" that
she needed to look Tia Tammy in the eye and apologize in a Big Girl voice.
She did so and received a big hug from me and a nice Thank You from Tia
Tammy.

I tend to ask screaming kids out shopping if the rest of us can scream
too. They do run back to their mama's or stare at you like you are
crazy!
Taria

wrote:
You're right, Kellie, about strangers speaking up. Once a child, about
5, was on the floor, kicking and screaming, and I observed and then
commented, "Wow, that was really good. Can you do it some more?" The
child was shocked and ran quietly to his mother, and was heard no more.
8^) Nancycog in MD, mother of 3 and grandmother of 4, perfectly behaved,
of course!

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DrQuilter wrote:

btw, she was very good until two months ago when she turned two...


LOL! And you're surprised? Remember the "terrible-twos" -- but they
do grow out of it, at least until the girls become teenagers.

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I didnt believe in that... thought it was just spoilt kids! )

Sandy Foster wrote:

In article ,
DrQuilter wrote:


btw, she was very good until two months ago when she turned two...



LOL! And you're surprised? Remember the "terrible-twos" -- but they
do grow out of it, at least until the girls become teenagers.


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