bad etiquette?

JJMolvik wrote:
"BonnieBlue" wrote in message
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Actually, one of the ladies in my Fiber Arts Guild told us about a
study done that showed if the listeners were working on hand work of
some type...embroidery, knitting, crochet...they were more likely to
retain the substance of the presentation (or sermon, if you like).
I think if I had been knitting at the time when we were attending
church I probably would have gotten more out of it because I
remember sitting there thinking of all the other things I could have
been doing and was not concentrating on the lecture.

BonnieBlue


"Allaya Diep" wrote in message
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Hi everyone

I always thought it would be considered "bad etiquette" to knit in
church. Not that I know much about these things, but it was just
something I dared not do. But a couple of weeks ago, I saw
somebody else doing it...knitting
in church! For those of you more experienced, is it okay to do
this, or is
it sorta rude? It was around Christmas, so maybe she had to finish
something up. *shrug*

Allaya





I agree with you totally! I pay better attention when I am knitting
than when I'm not. I've spent a lot of time away from church because
I just "didn't feel comfortable." Knitting alleviated this for me
and I am able to sit through a service without a panic attack and
leaving. As for nursery's for kids, mine only goes through 3 years
old. My children are very well behaved, but I do bring them a pad of
paper and crayons as well as a book or two, because and hour and a
half of just sitting is tedious when you don't REALLY understand what
is being said.

off my soap box now.

We don't have a "nursery" as such. We DO have a parents' room where we can
take children of any age, and it is a salvation ( no pun intended) for many
people.

Katherine

My sister was sitting next to a woman in church when the womans cell phone
started ringing. Unbelievably, she actually answered it and started having a
long conversation with the caller!!!!
Marie and the cats

I don't, and wouldn't. But it wouldn't bother me if somebody else
did...

And most in a previous church consider it perfectly acceptable to have
crayons and coloring pad for children (I don't, I'd rather have the
children in the nursery) but I have allowed it for my own children -
even though I don't agree...

Just way too much work to keep them satisfied without something to
occupy them, and far more distracting to have two wiggly children than
some knitting needles!

Laura M

It is extremely hard and almost impossible for small children to sit still
for an hour or so. I always had something in my pocketbook for waiting
times, church, appointments, etc. Crayons, pads of paper, little activity
books, small snack, etc. really can be a salvation for a parent. I would
recommend it to anyone with small children.
Diane
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"JJMolvik" wrote in message
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"BonnieBlue" wrote in message
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Actually, one of the ladies in my Fiber Arts Guild told us about a study
done that showed if the listeners were working on hand work of some
type...embroidery, knitting, crochet...they were more likely to retain
the
substance of the presentation (or sermon, if you like). I think if I
had
been knitting at the time when we were attending church I probably would
have gotten more out of it because I remember sitting there thinking of
all
the other things I could have been doing and was not concentrating on
the
lecture.

BonnieBlue


"Allaya Diep" wrote in message
news:UmIBd.18290$Q%4.6524@fed1read06...
Hi everyone

I always thought it would be considered "bad etiquette" to knit in
church.
Not that I know much about these things, but it was just something I
dared
not do. But a couple of weeks ago, I saw somebody else doing
it...knitting
in church! For those of you more experienced, is it okay to do this,
or
is
it sorta rude? It was around Christmas, so maybe she had to finish
something up. *shrug*

Allaya





I agree with you totally! I pay better attention when I am knitting than
when I'm not. I've spent a lot of time away from church because I just
"didn't feel comfortable." Knitting alleviated this for me and I am able
to
sit through a service without a panic attack and leaving. As for
nursery's
for kids, mine only goes through 3 years old. My children are very well
behaved, but I do bring them a pad of paper and crayons as well as a book
or
two, because and hour and a half of just sitting is tedious when you don't
REALLY understand what is being said.

off my soap box now.

JJMolvik

Laura wrote:
I don't, and wouldn't. But it wouldn't bother me if somebody else
did...

And most in a previous church consider it perfectly acceptable to have
crayons and coloring pad for children (I don't, I'd rather have the
children in the nursery) but I have allowed it for my own children -
even though I don't agree...

Just way too much work to keep them satisfied without something to
occupy them, and far more distracting to have two wiggly children than
some knitting needles!

Laura M

I know I'll be flamed for this, but church is for prayer and meditation,
and I feel that if children can't sit still during it, they should be
left with a babysitter or taken to whatever facility is available (our
church has a nursery or "children's chapel") -- it's VERY distracting to
have children talking out loud or arguing over crayons when one's trying
to concentrate on the service.

Beinchat wrote:
My sister was sitting next to a woman in church when the womans cell phone
started ringing. Unbelievably, she actually answered it and started having a
long conversation with the caller!!!!
Marie and the cats

If that happened in our church, someone would say something to her, or
the pastor or an acolyte would! Talk about bad manners!

That happened in the middle of our Biltmore tour this summer...twice...the
same woman.

"Beinchat" wrote in message
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My sister was sitting next to a woman in church when the womans cell phone
started ringing. Unbelievably, she actually answered it and started
having a
long conversation with the caller!!!!
Marie and the cats

I know I'll be flamed for this, but church is for prayer and meditation,
and I feel that if children can't sit still during it, they should be
left with a babysitter or taken to whatever facility is available (our
church has a nursery or "children's chapel") -- it's VERY distracting to
have children talking out loud or arguing over crayons when one's trying
to concentrate on the service.

BRBR

What we do is to have the kids (over about 2) come in the chapel for the first
part of the service. The pastor then takes time to sit on the floor with them
and talk with them and tell them a story and lead a prayer. After that they
are excused for special activities and we proceed with sermon etc. There is
usually a nursery for the really little ones. We are a small church and that
works for us. We want the kids to feel like they are a part of the church
family - but all of us are happier if they don't have to sit through all of it
before they are ready to participate.

I don't think I have seen anyone knit there but I don't think it would cause a
problem. We are pretty low key and as long as you don't annoy your neighbor,
it would probably be ok. I suspect anyone who planned to knit would probably
not sit in the front.
JCT

spampot wrote:
Laura wrote:
I don't, and wouldn't. But it wouldn't bother me if somebody else
did...

And most in a previous church consider it perfectly acceptable to
have crayons and coloring pad for children (I don't, I'd rather have
the children in the nursery) but I have allowed it for my own
children - even though I don't agree...

Just way too much work to keep them satisfied without something to
occupy them, and far more distracting to have two wiggly children
than some knitting needles!

Laura M

I know I'll be flamed for this, but church is for prayer and
meditation, and I feel that if children can't sit still during it,
they should be left with a babysitter or taken to whatever facility
is available (our church has a nursery or "children's chapel") --
it's VERY distracting to have children talking out loud or arguing
over crayons when one's trying to concentrate on the service.

No flaming here, Spampot! I wish that one of the mothers in my church would
heed this advice. Her little boy is very loud, and refuses to sit still in
church. He yells, and climbs over pews, and is totally distracting. In the
parents' room, there is a loudspeaker so that the occupants can hear the
service, but cannot be heard in the church. Much more appropriate, I think.

Katherine

"Katherine" skrev i melding
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spampot wrote:
Laura wrote:

I know I'll be flamed for this, but church is for prayer and
meditation, and I feel that if children can't sit still during it,
they should be left with a babysitter or taken to whatever facility
is available (our church has a nursery or "children's chapel") --
it's VERY distracting to have children talking out loud or arguing
over crayons when one's trying to concentrate on the service.

No flaming here, Spampot! I wish that one of the mothers in my church
would heed this advice. Her little boy is very loud, and refuses to
sit still in church. He yells, and climbs over pews, and is totally
distracting. In the parents' room, there is a loudspeaker so that the
occupants can hear the service, but cannot be heard in the church.
Much more appropriate, I think.

Katherine

Agree, Katherine!
I cannot forget;
many years ago I went to this very old, venerable church (the first
church that place: from year 1000; in the shape it has now: 1799)
http://www.gimle.vgs.no/gfx/Kirkeinne2.JPG
There vere nothing "modern" to it, exept a family who every sunday
brought their
( belching ;-) children + Coke + sweets + a heap of Donald Duck
magazines, toys, you name it. They were NOT soundless. The
(glass-)bottles tipped over, their parents made noise to find something
to wipe up, then noise to get the children quiet.
That is what I remember most from that church!LOL! And I must say I am
NOT a person who get easily annoyed. After that the most churches has
got childrens room and other "facilities" where there are people who
have children sevices for them and activate them; as you tell about!
Of couse can see it can be difficult to the parents with small
children.
I for my part would rather stay at home
than look after my small children during the service,
IN the churchroom!
AUD ;-))