"Dianne Lewandowski" wrote in message
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I know. I retracted the "gender neutral" part in a later post. g
But one has to be careful, in our current society, to make sweeping
statements either way. Working parents are not necessarily the
"lesser", but they're not necessarily the "equal", either. It's a
case-by-case situation. Judging by public information ads,
documentaries I've seen, articles I've read, we're pretty mixed up about
parenting these days.
Dianne

Dr. Brat wrote:

Dianne Lewandowski wrote:

The question was gender neutral. I'm not making a case for one side
or the other. A male can be a homemaker just as can a female. :-)
When I lived in Illinois, a neighbor did just that: Dad stayed home,
PhD mom brought home the bacon. Somebody has to raise the children.
Day Care, in the main, isn't teaching child basic manners and civil
behaviors. Unless, of course, you make a zillion dollars and can
afford the type of Day Care that does this responsibly and has
sufficient staff to do it responsibly.


The question as you relayed it here was NOT gender neutral. You said
that one cannot be a good mother without being a homemaker. I disagree.
Even if you make it gender neutral by saying one cannot be a good
parent without being a homemaker, it still doesn't hold. Some parents
work, even in dual parent households (duh). The working parent is not
automatically a lesser parent.

Elizabeth

The way I read that question was that if your children are your priority,
all your life decisions will incorporate that. Whether or not you have to
work, you still do your best by them. The opposite end of the scale would
be the parent pursuing personal happiness as a priority and the children
fitting in (or not).

Thanks for the link, Dianne. I feel better about not being 'successful'
when I am in company with Nelson Mandela and Ghandi!!!

Carolyn
U.K.