I am not in favor of control through humiliation, either. Doesn't
work. Backfires.

No, I am looking for ways to convince the bullies that their -own
lives- will improve if they find other ways of relating to people.
Make it obvious that it isn't open season on the unprotected, and that
respect is more rewarding in the long run.

After all, being respectful is an invitation for others to respect
you, too.

Deirdre

On Tue, 26 Aug 2003 15:13:30 -0700, vj wrote:


]Cost him more than he (or she)
]gains?

possibly, yes.
making examples of them in a negative way?